More contentment through self-acceptance or does that reduce the motivation?

More contentment through self-acceptance or does that reduce the motivation?

Accepting oneself as the key to happiness and personal development
self-acceptance

Does self-acceptance reduce motivation?

 

Many people consider discontentment to be the most important motivator. My observation: We are happier when we learn to accept ourselves as we truly are. And we stimulate personal development this way.

More contentment through self-acceptance

 

Psychologists at the University of Hertfordshire conducted in 2014 a survey. 5,000 people were asked to rate themselves on the 10 habits identified in a study as keys to happiness.

 

 

 

10 keys to a happier life

 

As the 10 keys to a happier life are named in the Study (external Link).

Giving: Doing something for other people
Relating: Connecting with others
Exercising: Moving the body and taking good care of it
Awareness: Living consciously
Trying out: Trying and learning new things
Direction: Setting appealing goals
Resilience: Getting on your feet with inner strength
Emotions: Figure out what’s good for you
Acceptance: Accepting oneself
Meaning: Being part of something larger

Together, the ten keys of happiness result in the acronym GREAT DREAM.

 

 

 

What’s missing? Self-acceptance!

 

The most interesting result of the study: The participants’ self-assessment was largely positive. The only habit that many people failed on was self-acceptance. Almost half of the participants rated themselves on a 10-point scale with 5 or less.

 

 

 

Causes

 

In our culture, there is enormous pressure on us to be successful and to constantly compare ourselves with others. This causes dissatisfaction and fear. It is intended to motivate us to perform better.

 

 

 

How can we learn from that insight?

 

Many people consider discontentment to be the most important motivator. My observation: We are happier when we learn to accept ourselves as we really are. The fear of losing motivation through self-acceptance is not only unjustified, but the opposite is true. Self-acceptance also makes it easier for us to evolve naturally.

The insecurity and pressure resulting from comparisons and lack of self-acceptance hinder personal development. Exactly the opposite is achieved through pressure. Positively formulated: practicing self-acceptance removes obstacles so that personal development is easier to achieve. It is worth paying attention to self-acceptance.

 

 

 

Practicing self-acceptance

 

It is important to treat ourselves as benevolently as we treat other people. This also includes considering one’s own mistakes as an opportunity to learn. Those who tend to be overly critical of themselves should practice recognizing and appreciating their strengths.

To be at peace with yourself, it helps to take time to get to know and like yourself.

If you constantly compare yourself with other people, it is easy to underestimate your possibilities and characteristics. Each one of us is unique. However, what we take for granted, we easily overlook and underestimate.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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Future: That time when our business is doing well, our friends are loyal and our happiness is secured. Ambrose Bierce

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Good fear, bad fear

Good fear, bad fear

How to free yourself from limiting fears.
Fears and anxiety

Good fear vs. bad fear

 

Fears are unpleasant obstacles on the way to a fulfilling life. This article is about what fears and anxiety good for and how to let go of limiting fears.

Good fear, bad fear

 

There are some obstacles on the journey to a fulfilling life to master, again and again, and again. Many of these obstacles have to do with fear.

 

 

 

Personal development

 

Fears have a huge impact on our lives. Fear reduces the joy of exploration, play, imitation, and creativity, causes stress, alters the personality. And I am writing here about the fears that many of us know.

 

 

 

Everyday fears and other anxieties

 

Some things in life are uncertain. We win something, we lose something. Not everything in life evolves as planned and sometimes it gets harder. That’s when worries can take on serious forms.

Many people are afraid of something. Many things can frighten us humans. Some fear is justified, others unjustified or at least exaggerated;

  • the fear of being judged by other people
  • the fear of being alone, of exam situations, speaking in front of an audience
  • the pressure to perform

Fear rarely makes it better.

Fear makes life more difficult. For example our decision-making.

Decisions also have consequences and this can be a burden, can cause anxiety. Fear stands in the way of making clever decisions. Paralyzed by fear, the scope for creativity is not explored and used. Important conversations are avoided out of fear, or they are painful.

Often relationships are only maintained out of fear of being alone. Many stay in the job because they worry about not finding a more suitable one and finally dare to approach to their calling. Many challenges and therefore chances remain unexploited because of fear.

Often the fears are unjustified or at least disproportionate, and yet they slow us down, distract us, or even paralyze us. Many of them have the characteristics of demons, which on closer inspection turn out to be projections. And even if they turn out to be substantiated, it is usually better to align and design resources accordingly than to ignore them.

In the case of phobias it becomes very obvious; avoidance makes the fear grow. There and elsewhere, avoiding unpleasant issues does not solve them, the problem just gets bigger.

How about the purpose of fear?

 

What is fear good for?

 

1. Fear is supposed to protect us

 

Hardly any human emotion has such a bad reputation as fear. People are even afraid of fear.

Fear has a vital function, it is an alarm reaction that should protect us when there is a threat. It is designed to prompt us to flee, to fight, or to exercise extreme caution.

The fear reactions are partly based on innate reflexes and some are learned. Both acute fear and worries about future events that might threaten our existence can be helpful. In the right dosage, it stimulates us to take action. But when fear prevails, it blocks us until we are paralyzed.

 

 

 

2. Anxiety promotes peak performance

 

Fear can unleash incredible powers. For a short time, the body is ready to perform at its best when anxious. Usually, this lasts as long as the dangerous situation lasts. However, increased physical abilities are not as helpful in many situations today as they were in our ancestor’s situation. Unfortunately, our cognitive abilities largely take a break in the meantime.

 

 

 

3. Physical reactions

 

When we are anxious, we notice above all the accompanying symptoms; trembling, wet hands, palpitations, rapid breathing up to shortness of breath, dry mouth, altered facial expressions, paleness or blushing, sweating, trembling, weakness, dizziness, diarrhea, urge to urinate and nausea as well as altered, limited perception up to a blackout.

Fear is a primitive system. This fear reaction is supposed to protect us from danger and the physical reactions that accompany it are natural. This is also the case when fear and anxiety are learned reactions to an unpleasant experience. Then the strong aversion to possible risks should protect against having that negative experiences again. However, too much fear restricts the ability to act appropriately.

Where does fear come from?

 

The fear response starts in a region of the brain called the amygdala. But how and why did the human species developed that mechanism?

In human history, our species once was a source of food, our ancestors were in danger of being eaten. You and me, we are descended from those who were more careful. The ancestors who were not afraid did not reproduce so often because they were eaten in those times. This has probably left patterns during evolution. Parts of our brains have not yet adjusted to the changing world.

In our somewhat more civilized world, existential threats are usually of a different nature.

Nowadays, only a few people are consumed by hungry wild animals. But our brain still evaluates situations according to old criteria and triggers primal physical reactions. Today this no longer happens in the wild, but for example in meeting rooms and in front of an audience. It is still frightening to leave the supposedly safe center of the herd. The so often praised individuality usually aims at maintaining the security of belonging to a group. On the periphery and outside the herd we feel threatened.

A stage is not a battleground, but if the reptilian brain believes that the audience might be dangerous, you may experience severe stage fright.

Here, and in many other situations, fear no longer helps us directly to save our lives. In the best case, fear leads to an activation, like a cup of espresso. If the fear increases to a restrictive blockage or even takes on pathological forms, then it is harmful.

We get used to some fears through repetition and to others we do not. Fears are not pleasant, apart from the thrill of a horror story, a roller coaster ride, or extreme sports.

Overcome fears

 

To overcome limiting fears is worthwhile even with mild forms. Fears haunt many people into their sleep and lead to nightmares, which in turn leave traces. Here, as in other areas, unreasonable fears unnecessarily reduce the quality of life. Such ballast works under the surface, it influences perception, thinking, and acting and should be discarded.

 

 

 

Get help with fears and anxieties

 

Fear and anxieties have many forms, manifestations, effects. Each form requires different steps. While stage fright, for example, can still be handled and solved by yourself or in coaching, real public speaking anxiety or glossophobia requires competent psychotherapy. Public speaking anxiety is considered a social anxiety disorder.

Given an appropriately experienced therapist, anxiety disorders can also be treated very well, improvement, and finally resolving them will be achieved soon. However, some fears do not require psychotherapy because they are not considered pathological. These are the anxieties that are not found in the ICD-10. ICD-10 is the abbreviation for the 10th version of the International Classification of Diseases. Whether anxieties are pathological, is not always so clear. Good coaches know when to recommend an expert. By the way, for 20 years I have been helping people affected by anxiety disorders as a therapist with permission to practice psychotherapy two days a week. Yes, fear has many forms.

“Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.”, said John Wayne. So, face your demons and you will support your personal development. Ask for support.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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What fears are preventing you from doing something that is actually important to you?

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The strength of character and how to cultivate it. 20 factors

The strength of character and how to cultivate it. 20 factors

Stand up for your own personality. This is how you foster strength of character. That's part of it...
Hints for strength of character

What is part of the strength of character?

 

Do you stand up for yourself and your concerns, are you true to your values even when there is a headwind? This article is about 20 elements of character strength and how to cultivate them.

Character and strength of character

 

The character describes a person, shows how someone actually is. The character influences significantly how a person is perceived by others.

If a person is considered to have strength of character, this is meant admiringly. It is about the number of positive character traits, especially the moral attitude.

Those who do not disappear uniformly in the masses attract attention and may encounter resistance. Some people are frightened by this. What about you?

Do you stand up for yourself and your concerns, are you committed to your values, even when there is a resistance? Those who cultivate strength of character are more successful and live a more fulfilling, self-determined life.

What are the building blocks of character strength and how can we cultivate it?

20 factors: What is part of the strength of character?

 

Here are 20 factors that contribute to the strength of character.

1. Curiosity

 

Healthy curiosity, in the sense of being interested, is a daily motivator that keeps us active and therefore more agile. The desire for knowledge is physically and mentally demanding, makes us more sociable and happier. Without curiosity as a drive there is no learning, no wisdom.

 

 

 

2. An own opinion

 

Not all of us allow ourselves our own opinion, even fewer people are prepared to stand for their own opinion with self-confidence. Insecure people tend to assimilate in order not to attract negative attention. The fear of rejection and conflicts slows down or paralyzes some people, they are hiding themselves and their opinions.

 

 

 

3. Courage

 

People of weak character are fickle, orienting themselves to the least resistance. They give way at the slightest pressure and prefer to bend rather than bite.

If necessary, personalities with strong character dare to take a bold stand-point for something. They are also not afraid to lead the way, to venture out of the anonymous mass and the comfort zone.

 

 

4. Knowing the own strengths

 

It helps us to be aware of our strengths in a healthy way. Those who know their strengths can cultivate them and use them more effectively.

 

 

 

5. Knowing the own weaknesses

 

Knowing your weaknesses enables you to make better decisions. The willingness to dedicate oneself to personal development and, if necessary, to make peace with the fact that something cannot be turned into a strength despite all the effort involved, helps.

 

 

 

6. Loyalty

 

Loyalty requires personality. Loyalty means faithfulness and reliability. It is expressed towards spouses, friends, family, employers, etc.
Loyalty may also require you to put your interests aside for the benefit of others.

People of strong character know their values and priorities and pay attention to ethical behavior. They are also prepared to tread uncomfortable paths.

 

 

 

7. Honesty

 

Honesty and sincerity are important virtues. With honesty, we combine reliability, commitment, and openness. To be truthful about what is said, even when it is uncomfortable, requires strength of character.

 

 

 

8. Willingness to take responsibility

 

The willingness to take responsibility also includes admitting mistakes. People with strong minds take full responsibility for their actions and learn from the feedback instead of trying to use excuses. This sometimes includes the willingness and ability to apologize when it is time to do so.

 

 

 

9. Patience

 

Constructive patience is an important quality of a strong personality. This includes the willingness to remain true to oneself despite short-term rewards and temptations. Only this way it is to master greater challenges.

10. To know our priorities and values

 

People of strong character know their priorities and remain true to themselves and their values. I know from most people of strong character that they deal with philosophical issues. They wouldn’t call it that personally, but they are dedicated to higher goals and visions. This has a very strengthening effect on the personality.

 

 

 

11. Willingness to stand up for other people

 

The willingness to stand up for other people, even if it involves personal disadvantages, requires strength. Promises can be made, but doing it is not so common.

 

 

 

12. Self-reflection

 

Self-reflection paves the way for personal development where other people obstruct themselves. Self-reflection fosters learning and good decisions. Those who know themselves well are much harder to manipulate and live their own lives. This frees and activates potential.

 

 

 

13. Be at peace with oneself

 

Bruises, unprocessed traumas, and limiting beliefs make us more vulnerable to manipulation. Those who are occupied with themselves unnecessarily are distracted. Being mentally tidy promotes focus, more resources are available for important tasks.

Being at peace with oneself makes life easier; thinking and acting are congruent. Actions arise from their own decisions, which in turn are based on their values. Decisions are not externally controlled or based on deficits.

 

 

 

14. Not having to prove anything

 

Having nothing to prove is so liberating. Where some dazzlers loudly offer more illusion than reality, personalities of strong characters do not have to prove anything. Another reason why people of strong character can be more authentic and relaxed.

 

 

 

15. Focus

 

Those who are engaged everywhere hardly get anywhere and sooner or later become tired. Some tasks deserve to be given the appropriate attention. This requires priorities and focus.

 

 

 

16. Being present

 

Being in the present sounds easier than it is sometimes. Some people prefer to reminisce about the highlights of the past. Others dream of a distant paradise-like future instead of working on it. There is not much to recognize of attentive contact with other people.

 

 

 

17. Benevolence

 

Strong people can wish other people good luck and treat them well. Strong personalities are not afraid of other people achieving something.

Weak ones are often afraid that other people’s successes will set them back themselves. This is particularly evident with narcissists.

 

 

 

18. Keep pushing

 

Setbacks or even traumatic experiences can be painful. They can leave behind serious injuries and break people. However, they can also promote immense personal growth.

Strong people are resilient and take setbacks as feedback. They learn from it and start again. Each experience is a chance to get closer to their goal.

 

 

 

19. Indulgence

 

To stand firm for oneself and one’s convictions are compatible with considering other points of view, exchanging views respectfully, complementing one another, learning. People of strong character are self-confident and this allows benevolence towards other people, while insecure people try to protect themselves and their position through ignorance. People make mistakes and it is good to forgive oneself and others for that.

 

 

 

20. Creating instead of being a victim

 

It requires strength of character to continue upright even in strong headwinds. People who are focused on the possibilities remain more constructive than those who consider themselves victims of the circumstances. 

How can character strength be cultivated?

 

The mentioned character traits provide the direction. In coaching, I take a closer look at the status and goals of my clients. This is often very personal when personal development is meant seriously. Then we proceed step by step, mentally and concretely. The strength of character can be cultivated in many ways. The important thing is to live character strength.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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Overcome your fear of public speaking, with coaching in Berlin

Overcome Your Fear Of Public Speaking, With Coaching In Berlin

Coaching for stage fright, therapy for glossophobia or speech anxiety, the excessive fear of public speaking
Stage Fright

Fear of public speaking

 

Does stage fright or performance anxiety block and frustrate your ambitions? Eliminating your fear of public speaking is possible! With techniques like NLP and Hypnobalancing™, you can retrain both your conscious and your subconscious mind.

Stage fright: When adrenaline is flowing through your body

 

Tachycardia, sweating palms, heavy breathing? Nothing influences a presentation more than your fear. Fear is a common experience of speakers, actors, politicians and almost every person who has ever been introduced. People get nervous when they have to speak in front of others. We all suffer from a certain degree of stage fright. Some people are particularly intense. That’s why some people avoid situations of public speaking, they don’t know how to deal with the fear of presentation.

The feeling of stage fright is bad enough, but what is worse is the damage it can do to your career and self-esteem. If you let yourself be prevented from doing the important things, your self-confidence will diminish and your stage fright will grow bigger and stronger.

 

 

 

Our body’s response to stress: Fight or flight?

 

Stage fright is associated with fight or flight syndrome. When a person is confronted with a threatening situation, the vegetative nervous system releases adrenaline into the bloodstream. Adrenaline produces most of the symptoms that people associate with stage fright: flat, rapid breathing, increased heart rate, tremors, and nervous nerves.

These reactions can be helpful for an organism faced with a valid threat to survival. But none of these effects helps speakers convince an audience and feel good about themselves. Unfortunately, the autonomic nervous system does not distinguish between real and hallucinated threats. If the mind perceives the threat as dangerous enough, although a rational analysis would say otherwise, the brain stem begins to distribute the adrenaline.

It is therefore not only in the imagination a problem. It is also in your body. It takes thirty minutes or more for the adrenaline to dissolve, so the adrenaline and adrenaline-related symptoms persist in the body for a long time after they are released. One result is the jittery nerves of stage fright.

Often someone prone to stage fright misinterprets these symptoms. Thus, it strengthens the fear of the effects of stage fright more and more. As a result, more adrenaline is released into the blood and a vicious circle begins.

 

 

 

Avoidance leads to more problems

 

Some people are so desperate that they avoid accepting jobs where they need to speak publicly. This is not only a disadvantage for the individual, but also for the countless people who will miss what that person has to say. Speaking is power and power is connected with responsibility. Those who evade responsibility leave decisions and the influence of shaping the world to others.

 

 

 

Public speaking and stage fright?

 

If you want to be successful, then you have to talk and present effectively, convince and fight for your ideas. Maybe someone in a meeting asks you if you want to present your project, or maybe you’re standing in front of a crowded conference room giving a presentation that could advance or end your career. This can put you under pressure. That’s why some people don’t feel inspired in front of an audience, but just panicked. Not everyone knows how to deal with this kind of fear.

In terms of public speaking, this kind of fear is referred to as glossophobia or fear of speech, which is the fear of speaking to an audience. Stage fright can occur in people of all experiences and backgrounds, both in beginners and professionals, and can occur increasingly or suddenly.

What is so special about public speaking? Many old books will tell you that there is no reason why you should be afraid to make a public speech.

For a long time, it has been said that people are afraid because they are not prepared. So the whole focus was on being as well-prepared as possible. And preparation meant the technical part of the presentation. Do it over and over again and everything will be fine. That’s why many trainers have developed programs that are very much focused on preparation and practice. They assured the people that they would get rid of their fear in this way. It was pointed out that it can take weeks to months, but the only repetition helps to overcome the fear.

 

The American modern dancer and choreographer Martha Graham meant:

I believe that we learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. In each, it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit. One becomes, in some area, an athlete of God. Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.

 

Yes, training where you practice and practice and practice, and you show up in front of people who take care of you, and you practice your speech, and you do well – that’s wonderful. You have to practice and I want to support everyone who gives a presentation with training, I want you to be brilliant. But the truth is that it is often not enough to overcome the physiological, automatic reaction. The reaction can often be triggered by the mere thought of a podium or audience. The mere thought of standing in front of an audience does not let many people sleep. It is an unconscious reaction that has to be changed in depth.

Many people consciously understand that speaking in front of an audience is not as dangerous as it feels, but that doesn’t change anything, because it still feels terrible! Your mental and physical reactions refuse all logical explanations. Therefore, it must be changed where it originates, in your subconscious. Then it is possible to overcome even the most intense fear of public speaking!

 

 

 

Are you the only one with stage fright?

 

There are only two types of speakers in the world.

1. The nervous
and
2. liars.

Mark Twain

 

If you have attended meetings, conferences or presentation training and observed the communication styles of excellent speakers, you may want to be like them. Some speakers radiate such confidence and seem to show no signs of nervousness.

The truth is that even world-class presenters usually get nervous before they enter the stage, no matter how often they stand in front of an audience. It depends on how you use this nervousness that makes a difference in the quality of your presentation.

 

 

 

Help with the fear of public speaking

 

Unfortunately, so many people keep silent because they suffer from immense stage fright. Stage fright can be a positive kind of excitement but sometimes the fear can be intense and as a result, too many people keep silent! This is sad, especially if someone has something to say.

 

If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, will answer you: I am here to live out loud.

Emile Zola

 

We will never hear the advice of many excellent experts because they have stage fright. And many potential leaders are silenced by their fear; great minds avoid leadership positions or do not reach their full potential because they are unable to express themselves.

Overcoming stage fright will help you inspire others, share your vision, explain to them the context, convince them to do the right things. If stage fright prevents you from reaching your potential, it is never too late to free yourself by unlocking the inner leader.

Fortunately, there are several treatment options for reducing and even releasing anxiety, such as hypnotherapy and Hypnobalancing™. And there are things you can do to help yourself. The number one is trust. Trusting yourself is important. That’s why in coaching we identify the negative self-talk that always runs in our heads and replaces it with positive thoughts. And for your autonomy, I teach you some practical skills. As a result, you will develop strategies to prevent and reduce symptoms, maintain mental states in which you and your message will convince in speeches and presentations. If we do a good job, you will enjoy these opportunities.

With techniques like NLP and Hypnobalancing™ you can train your consciousness as well as your subconscious. Once the feelings of fear of public speaking have disappeared, there is no need for the brain to continue to worry, create stress, or create fear of presentation.

If you suffer from severe anxiety, I offer reduced fees for psychotherapy. Do not hesitate to ask me for details.

Preparation of important speeches and presentations

 

Those who do not speak are not heard and even those who speak up are not always successful. There are a few more steps that need to be mastered. 

You want to convince with your message and also as a personality? Then I will help you to prepare your speeches and presentations. You determine the scope. At least I recommend a test run with professional feedback for you and your message. Then you will know how you and your content are perceived, what you should do and what you should leave out, where there is potential. Why do you want to get such helpful feedback so late after your real performance? Then it is too late for adjustments. Benefit from the advantage. My definition of luck: Preparation meets opportunity.

You can best estimate for yourself where the effort is worthwhile concerning the expected benefit. Here you will find the fees for my support (communication, psychology, language, structure, voice, body language, storytelling, rhetorical means, media such as PowerPoint and Co., etc.)

You are not in Berlin right now? Then choose meetings with me via telephone or video support. Whereby there are quite good reasons for a trip to Berlin.

By the way, many people suffer from such intense stage fright in front of an audience and therefore their performance lags behind their possibilities. Too bad, because with my help a performance in a good condition is possible. Just in case...

A good start: Professional feedback with recommendations for improvements

 

How convincing are you and your messages in speeches and presentations? How good are you in the 111+ most important presentation skills? I have been analyzing speeches since 1998. After evaluating 14,375 speeches and presentations, I can tell you very precisely what has which effect on which audience. Let me give you the feedback that will help you get ahead. You will receive essential feedback and recommendations, as well as the impulses you need to convince your audience in concrete situations.

Are you interested? Then you will find here the information on feedback with recommendations for improvements of speeches and presentations.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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How do you deal with stage fright or the fear of public speaking?

We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality. Seneca

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Get into the ideal mental state with Hypnobalancing™

Get into the ideal mental state with Hypnobalancing™

Discard legacy, recognize and activate strengths, gain insights and clarity, promote condition and charisma.
Hypnobalancing

Hypnobalancing™

 

Hypnobalancing™ helps to work on subconscious topics and to achieve goals. It is a powerful method. With Hypnobalancing™ you can dispose of old burdens, recognize and activate strengths, gain insights and clarity, promote condition and charisma. Find out more here.

Hypnobalancing™

 

Many people know that they are unhappy.
But even more people do not know that they are happy.

Albert Schweitzer

 

There are many descriptions of unpleasant states and especially one in which we can’t access our resources: standing beside ourselves, not being in the middle, not being in balance, being beside ourselves, etc. The desirable state is described as being centered, resting in oneself, …

Hypnobalancing™ promotes this mental state. With Hypnobalancing™, you can release concerns, recognize and activate your strengths, gain insights and clarity, promote a constructive attitude and charisma. That facilitates much in life and lets you enjoy the moment.

 

 

 

 

Why Hypnobalancing™

 

Hypnobalancing™ was developed at the beginning of the millennium as solution-focused psychotherapy. It emerged from flexible-cooperative hypnotherapy and the combination with additional methods. It is inspired by the so-called partial work, the transactional analysis helpful for the consideration of the solution level, by Focusing (Gene Gendlin) and the self-relationship therapy of Stephen Gilligan, the energetic psychology, breath training as well as enriched by elements of NLP.

Today, Hypnobalancing™ is also successfully used in mental training.

 

 

 

Promotion of mental self-organization skills

 

By combining proven methods, Hypnobalancing™ has a harmonizing effect on body and mind, harmonizes them and makes us more agile. In this state of balance, health is a natural inner state, a state in which challenges can be solved more easily because the perception of one’s resources is enhanced.

The conviction that the human psyche is capable of self-organization processes is characteristic of Hypnobalancing™. The purpose of the sessions is to provide the appropriate space for these self-organization processes. If restrictive convictions are resolved, the previously bound energies are released and are now available for constructive life design.

 

 

 

Perception, thinking and acting

 

Decisive for positive change is how a person deals with himself inwardly. It is helpful to be able to include physical sensations and not to orientate oneself exclusively on supposedly logical thoughts. If this ability is promoted, it has a very significant influence on perception, thinking, and action.

Hypnobalancing™ makes thinking and acting more productive, creative, supportive and encouraging. The inner balance achieved is a resource that can be used in many ways, as personal changes are easier in this attitude. The achieved state of inner equilibrium is very helpful in itself because it makes it easier to find solutions, and the design and implementation of these solutions gain momentum.

A Chinese proverb says, “If the roots are deep, you don’t have to fear the wind.”

 

 

 

Applications and forms of the Hypnobalancing™

 

Ursprünglich für den Einsatz bei Ängsten und Angststörungen entwickelt, hat sich Hypnobalancing™ auch in anderen Bereichen als sehr wirksam erwiesen. Es existieren heute verschiedene methodische Formen des Hypobalancing™, wie beispielsweise das 6 Phasen Hypnobalancing™ und Deep Hypnobalancing™.

 

 

 

Deep Hypnobalancing™

 

It is difficult to find happiness in us, and it is quite impossible to find it elsewhere.

Nicolas Chamfort

 

Deep Hypnobalancing™ is a technique of Hypnobalancing™. In this variant, particularly deep trance states are created. These pleasant states are used for solutions on a deep level and to promote personal balance harmoniously.

Deep Hypnobalancing™ uses few targeted suggestions for change when reaching this deep trance state, it primarily uses the state as such. The perceptible inner balance is experienced as very pleasant. The achieved balance opens up resources that can be used many times over because in this state access and reorganization are easier.

Typical topics

 

  • Know your live purpose
    Being stuck in inability to act or disorientation frustrated leads to a dissatisfied life, far from the possibilities.
  • Motivation
    Resolve blockages by uncovering the causes
  • Fears
    Fears for the future, stage fright, speech anxiety, etc.
  • Self-sabotage
  • Mobbing
  • Burnout
  • Self-confidence
  • Creativity
  • Exam situations
  • Change
  • Performance
  • Recognition of one’s own strengths and talents
  • Stress

What happens during Hypnoblancing?

 

What exactly happens during a session depends on the situation. Every person is different.

The Hypnobalancing™ uses goal-oriented traditional and modern hypnosis techniques with light, medium and very deep trance. A variety of methods of flexible-cooperative hypnotherapy, such as Hypnobalancing™, are combined with techniques of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and other proven methods of mental training. All these techniques have a harmonizing effect on the body and psyche. They accelerate the process of achieving individual goals. In a guided trance the mind has more possibilities to access personal resources. Restrictive and blocking beliefs from the past are revealed and changed. Positive beliefs are then strengthened.

Your hypno coach

 

What is a hypno coach? This is a very experienced coach with appropriate training in hypnotherapy and experience in mental training. In my case, there are a few more training courses to be added. For some topics of clients an appropriate admission to the practice of psychotherapy is required. I have obtained this admission.

My profile gives you more information about the background I use to practice effective hypno coaching. Trance and mental training have accompanied me since I was 16 years old and have helped me very well.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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Do you have private or occupational blockages and would like to give your life a desirable, happy and successful direction or want to reach a particularly ambitious goal?

Concentration is goal-oriented motivation.

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Travel companion for heroes

Travel Companion For Heroes

That's what I do
Travel Companion For Heroes

We need more heroes

 

I don’t count the number of presentations I have supported. After all, it has been several years since I started my own business in 1998. In intensive cooperation, we have worked on many projects. Many ideas were put into practice. But I still realize too often, that honest and interesting messages are not heard by the intended target group. Therefore, I support people who have something important to say. How about you?

I am a travel companion for heroes

 

The world could be a better place. The problem is not a lack of ideas. I observe too often that honest offers don’t get a deserved chance. Nobody ever seems to listen to them. Those who want to do something desirable get frustrated and then give up. Some people say nothing more in public because they are convinced that they have no personal impact. This is sad because ideas have a chance through the engagement with the world and not through the separation from it. 

 

 

 

So what?

 

I can no longer count the number of presentations I have supported. After all, it has been several years since I started my own business in 1998. In intensive cooperation, we have worked on many projects. Many ideas were put into practice. Usually, this was done systematically and well-prepared. For myself, I usually prefer to speak spontaneously. I love to give a speech to the audience without special preparation. This is a quality that is both weaknesses and strengths. It’s usually a good idea because I only talk about topics that move me personally. I am convinced that the power of a real debate lies in the language and honesty of the speaker.

 

 

 

My profession, my clients, the heroes

 

When I answer the question of what I do for what reason, I say: “I am a travel companion for heroes. Although my clients rarely consider themselves as such, even though they fulfill the criteria.”

No, I am not Gandalf and I don’t have a long white beard. You’ll find more details about me and my background in management, consulting and coaching in my profile. Let’s find out what I can do for you and your message. Where and how does my experience in marketing, psychology, and communication help you?

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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What effort and cost for the preparation of a conversation or negotiation are justified?

What Effort And Cost For The Preparation Of A Conversation Or Negotiation Are Justified?

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The effort to prepare a conversation or negotiation

 

If you expect something from a conversation, it pays off to prepare accordingly. With a good conversation, a lot can be achieved and investments are worthwhile. So far so good. Which effort exactly is worthwhile?

How important is the conversation?

 

Not every conversation requires extensive preparation. However, some preparation is good for every conversation. What effort is recommended is a matter of importance, effort, opportunities, and risks. Investing requires thoughtful decisions. Why do more than necessary? 

 

 

 

How about a good preparation for a conversation?

 

Conversations can have different goals; inform, inspire, clarify, … In a successful conversation, it is possible to mutually communicate the perspectives and options and to find a common solution. After a good conversation, the participants are happier than before.

Good communicators are ready to make their contribution to a successful conversation and create the conditions for it.

 

 

 

The effort for the preparation of conversations

 

Sometimes a short note is enough to prepare you and sometimes it takes a lot of effort to take a closer look at the risks and opportunities. Sometimes even considerable investments in time and financial resources pay off.

Not every person has professional support or the financial means to do so. But carelessness is often the reason why good preparation is omitted. In order to limit the damage later, often great effort is required. Again, the rule applies: investments want to be evaluated in the ratio of cost to result.

Which effort is worthwhile for the preparation of a conversation is to be answered individually. However, if you expect something from a conversation, it is worth preparing.

Preparation of important conversations and negotiations

 

Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?

More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.

You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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What effort is justified for the preparation of speeches and presentations?

Great Ideas Need Wings As Well As Landing Gear And...

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Make a trip to Berlin for coaching or training?

Make A Trip To Berlin For Coaching Or Training?

What are the benefits of traveling to Berlin? There are at least eight good reasons
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Come to Berlin

 

What are the benefits of a trip to Berlin for coaching and training with me? There are at least eight good reasons.

Which coaching and training format is best for you?

 

Options:

  • Individual training and coaching in Berlin
  • I’m traveling to you personally
  • By phone or internet with video support

 

 

 

Either way, we work face to face

 

Due to time constraints, my clients are increasingly using meetings via the Internet and video support. One-to-one, that’s a good choice. However, some issues and situations benefit from a personal meeting. At first glance, it may seem like a contradiction, but the journey itself helps to deal with a topic more intensively.

 

 

 

At least seven good reasons to come to Berlin

 

 

1. Weigh what’s most important to you

 

At first, mainly participants of my nationwide workshops came to Berlin to coach with me. Today clients from all over the world visit me in Berlin.

Why? It’s often more of a concession; I know it from my participation in training. If I want certain coaching or training, if I prefer a coach or trainer, then I have to travel. The extra effort is more accepted than welcomed. It’s worth it to me. What about you?

 

 

 

2. Traveling provides a contribution

 

Traveling requires time and effort. Interestingly, I get a lot of feedback from my customers that the trip itself contributes something special. It’s time to pause, think, sort thoughts and…

 

 

 

3. Change of perspective

 

Most clients report that the new location has some advantages for them. The spatial distance to the usual working day and the workplace helps detach oneself from established ways of thinking and behaving. This makes it easier to explore and use new perspectives.

 

 

 

4. Inspiration

 

Each place provides different inspirations, suggestions, and insights. This is especially true in Berlin. I use these possibilities and connect them with the individual goals of my clients. Opposite my office is the Zoo Berlin with the Tiergarten, a huge park. Both have already provided a special framework for many processes.

The group training usually takes place near the Gedächtniskirche or the Friedrichstraße. You will find the inspiration that supports your goals.

 

 

 

5. Concentration instead of distraction

 

It may sound more comfortable to meet in your bureau. Truth is; something is always urgent and therefore someone interrupts the training and coaching sessions with a particularly urgent request. Even the possibility of an interruption reduces effectiveness. Especially when coaching and training in companies, interruptions are very likely. This is a pity because so much potential is wasted.

Let us work together to ensure the best possible conditions. Outside your office, you will be able to concentrate much better. When traveling to Berlin, you also have enough time for preparation and follow-up. This is an advantage for those who allow themselves to switch off their mobile phones.

 

 

 

6. Preparation

 

If you plan your appointments early enough, a preparation session over the phone or the Internet with video support is a good idea. We set the course and can both prepare optimally. In this way, you get the maximum benefit from your trip to Berlin.

 

 

 

7. Arrival and departure

 

Many roads lead to Berlin and with Tegel (TXL) we still have an airport in the city. Many clients also come by train. Either way, the place where coaching often takes place is next to the Gedächtniskirche near Bahnhof Zoologischer Garten with connections to Hauptbahnhof Berlin and the Airport Express for Tegel (TXL) and Schönefeld (SXF).

Take a break from everyday work. When you arrive at my office, you are already prepared for coaching or training. And after the session, you will have time to think about your impressions and how they will support you. This is a good prerequisite for working together on your topic and putting thoughts and skills into practice.

 

 

 

8. The city of Berlin and the people

 

There are many more good reasons to come to Berlin.

 

 

 

9. …

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Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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How can this motto be helpful for you?

May you live all the days of your life. Jonathan Swift

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Decision-making: Do it now! Here are 9 tips for better decision making.

Decision making: Do it now! Here are 9 tips for better decision making.

What might help? Tips for better decision making
Do It Now!

Better decision-making

 

Making decisions can be difficult. Your success depends on your ability to develop speed as a habit in both; decision-making and executing decisions. Here are a few tips for better decision-making. 

Overview

A good plan violently executed right now is far better than a perfect plan executed next week.

George S. Patton

Speed

 

When you think about it, all business activity comes down to two simple things: Making decisions and executing decisions. Your success depends on your ability to develop speed as a habit in both. I believe that speed, like exercise and eating healthy, can be habitual.

 

 

 

Different requirements

 

I don’t say all decisions should be made quickly. Some decisions are more complicated or critical than others. It might be helpful for you sometimes to wait for more information. Some decisions can’t be easily reversed or would be too damaging if you choose poorly. Most importantly, some decisions don’t need to be made immediately.

Decision making is one of the most important ingredients of success, yet we are not taught this crucial life skill. With small decisions, a mistake is not serious. However, with a major life, career or business decision, the wrong choice can be devastating. A bad decision can cost dearly in terms of money, time or lost opportunity.

 

 

 

What holds us back?

 

We want to make the perfect decision that means we don’t lose out on any front. Truth is the life is not usually like that, and we often have to choose between competing values.

Sometimes we give some decisions much more important than they have. Often it doesn’t matter that much.

We want to have a cast-iron guarantee that it will all work out for the best. Unfortunately, life is fundamentally uncertain, and we can never be sure it will.

 

 

 

What might help? 9 Tips for better decision-making

 

 

1. Know the mechanisms

 

Understanding that the problem is the human condition, so we can never have everything we want or know in advance how things will work out.

 

 

 

2. Good is good

 

Aiming for good enough rather than perfect.

 

 

 

3. Know your values

 

Find out what values are at stake.

 

 

 

4. Explore the scenarios

 

Work out the likely consequences of each option.

 

 

 

5. How about your gut feeling?

 

Ask yourself what gut feelings are around and whether they are telling us something important or misleading us.

 

 

 

6. Have a plan

 

Have a plan. If we conclude what we should do, but are still leaning in the opposite direction to some extent, how can we help ourselves to stick to our decision?

 

 

 

7. Priorities

 

Don’t spend too much time on unimportant decisions. Luckily, most of the decisions we make are not irrevocable nor life-threatening. We can change our minds if it turns out that we were wrong.

 

 

 

8. Stay with your decision

 

It is usually better not to revisit a decision unless circumstances change. Once you’ve gathered the information you need, weigh the pros and cons and conclude. The more you ruminate, the greater the chance that you will second guess yourself.

Once a decision is irreversible, you better not dwell too much on whether it was the right thing to do or not. We will never know everything and can’t do anything about it now, so the time spent on this kind of postmortem would probably be better spent doing something else.

 

 

 

9. Get help

 

Discuss your decision-making with others to make up your mind. Professional help will support you in the best way.

Decision-making coaching

 

Decision coaching is a specialized type of coaching. A professional coach with experience in that field combines the skills and techniques obtained from coaching individuals and organizations together with a knowledge and understanding of decision-making principles, decision tools, and best practices. As a result, a decision coach can successfully guide clients through an important or difficult life, career and business decisions.

I help clients become clear about their values and how they impact the decision. With coaching, I help my client set the criteria for a successful decision and develop and evaluate options. Together we organize the decision process into specific steps and I help my client work through each step avoiding common decision traps. I offer specific decision-making tools and resources to help my client analyze the issues involved, assess risk, evaluate available options and make a wise decision.

As a coach, I have to understand you, your values, long term goals, wants and needs. I have to see you as a real person and, at the same time, see you more objectively than you see yourself. That was I will help you to understand what you want out of your life. I will not decide for you. I act as a skilled guide, consultant and adviser to help you arrive at your decision, but ultimately the decision should be and needs to be made by you.

Coaching for decisions

 

Decisions have to be made over and over again - small and large. Some are easy, some are difficult. We make many of these decisions without having to think much about them or even completely unconsciously, automatically. But now and then we come to the point where we encounter a decision where we pause, don't know what to do, don't see clearly. Often these are decisions of great importance that also have the ability to question important aspects of life that were previously considered given or untouchable. Such a situation can create pressure and even lead to paralysis, so that creative and constructive ways remain unconsidered.

Who sees clearly, can decide better and act purposefully. In order for this to succeed, it is necessary to ensure that the options are identified and, if necessary, increased and priorities clarified. Decision coaching helps to oversee the forest for the trees and to find the right focus. The best decision and creativity techniques can be used most effectively in a good mental state.

In order to make your decision easier, to be supported by me, I focus on transparency. On these pages you will find information about me (Karsten Noack) and the fees.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. I'd love to hear from you. Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me by e-mail mail@karstennoack.com, phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56. You can also use this contact form. Please read the information about the privacy policy.

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Do you have a mentor?

Do You Have A Mentor?

A mentor is a trusted counselor, a wise, loyal, and supportive guide, an adviser, or a coach.
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Mentoring in Berlin

 

Almost every successful leader had a mentor. What is important to keep in mind, what makes a good mentor? Learn how a mentor can support you. 

What is a mentor?

 

A mentor is a trustworthy consultant, a clever, loyal and supportive companion, a consultant, trainer or coach. Ideally, a mentor is also a role model and confidant. He has gained relevant practical experience.

This is usually a kind of sponsorship between a young, promising executive (the mentee) and an experienced manager (the mentor). For this working relationship to work, there must be complete trust between the partners involved. Also, the mentee must be willing to accept suggestions and deal constructively with feedback. Mentors also point out risks and potentials if they want to promote their protégés. And do you also have a mentor?

 

 

 

Do you have a mentor?

 

You benefit from a mentor because he or she can provide you with the experience of many years within a short period. Mentees learn what the mentor has experienced and done and how it worked for him. This saves you detours, time and effort because you can learn from his mistakes and successes and do not have to make unnecessary mistakes.

 

Typical functions of a mentor:

  • He offers the mentee insights into an area.
  • Promotes the necessary skills.
  • He incorporates both elements of coaching and counseling.
  • Supports mentee development by sharing experiences, resources, and networks.
  • Encouragement to leave the comfort zone and develop further.
  • The mentor encourages one to think for oneself.
  • He provides constructive feedback.

 

That sounds too good to be true? Almost every successful personality had a mentor who played an important role.

 

 

 

Which success can be achieved all by itself?

 

Almost every successful executive can refer to a mentor who has played an important role. There are many examples of how important a mentor can be. The term “mentor” comes from The Odyssey. Odysseus asked his friend Mentor to watch over his son Telemachus while Odysseus was in the Trojan War. Mentorship existed long before Socrates cared for Plato, who cared for Aristotle, who cared for Alexander the Great.

I greatly appreciate the experienced support. If I hadn’t had mentors, I wouldn’t be here today. The guidance I have received from experienced men and women has made an enormous positive difference in my life. Intelligence is learning from experience and I don’t have to make every mistake myself. Others have encountered problems, made mistakes and learned from them.

Search for role models you can look up to and people who are interested in you. If we just take the time to ask them, they often like to share what they have learned.

In mentoring, the immediate supervisor is indirectly involved. Although she or he can make suggestions to the employee on how best to use the mentoring experience, the supervisor has no connection to the mentor, and they do not communicate at all during the mentoring relationship. This helps maintain the integrity of the mentoring relationship.

Mentoring programs have been popular for some time and differ from classical coaching.

 

 

 

The differences between mentoring and coaching

 

 

Coaching (and training)

 

Coaching and training are more task-oriented. The focus is on concrete topics such as more effective management, targeted and effective communication and strategic thinking. This requires an expert who can teach the coachee how to develop these skills.

A coach can work successfully with a coachee for a short time, perhaps only for a few sessions. Coaching lasts as long as necessary, depending on the purpose of the coaching relationship.

Business coaching aims to improve an individual’s performance in the workplace. The aim is either to improve existing skills or to acquire new skills. Once the coachee has successfully acquired the skills, the coach is no longer needed.

Coaching can be done on nearly any topic almost immediately. When a company tries to coach a large group of individuals, there is certainly a lot of design involved in determining the competence field, the expertise required and the assessment tools used, but this does not necessarily require a long lead time to implement the coaching program.

The superior of the coachee can be a critical partner in coaching. He or she often gives the coach feedback on areas where his or her employee needs coaching. The coach, on the other hand, does not reveal any details from the coaching.

 

 

 

 

Mentoring

 

Mentoring is more relationship-oriented. It aims to create a safe environment in which the mentor shares all the issues that affect his or her professional and personal success. Although specific learning goals or competencies can be used as a basis for building the relationship, the focus goes beyond these areas and includes things like work and life balance, self-confidence, self-awareness and how personal life affects the job.

Mentoring takes time to succeed. It takes time for both partners to learn from each other and create a climate of trust that creates an environment in which the mentee feels safe to share the real problems that affect his or her success. Successful mentoring relationships often last from nine months to one year.

The goal of mentoring is to support the individual not only for the current job but also for the future. This also distinguishes the role of the immediate superior from that of the mentor.

Mentoring requires a preparatory phase to determine the strategic purpose of mentoring, the form and focus of the relationship, collaboration, and specific components.

 

 

 

When to consider coaching and when mentoring?

 

What all types of coaching and mentoring have in common is that they provide a tool for analysis, reflection, and action that makes it possible to be successful in a field.

 

 

 

When to consider coaching

 

Criteria:

  • When it comes to the development of specific competences.
  • To learn how to deal with a new role.
  • When talented people want to work on a topic because they do not meet their expectations or those of the company.

 

Here you will find further examples of the application of coaching.

 

 

 

When to consider mentoring

 

Criteria:

  • When a company is seeking to develop its leaders or talent pool as part of succession planning
  • The long-term process to remove barriers that hinder success
  • Access to the network of the mentor is helpful

 

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. I'd love to hear from you. Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me by e-mail mail@karstennoack.com, phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56. You can also use this contact form. Please read the information about the privacy policy.

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