The strength of character and how to cultivate it. 20 factors

The strength of character and how to cultivate it. 20 factors

Stand up for your own personality. This is how you foster strength of character. That's part of it...
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What is part of the strength of character?

 

Do you stand up for yourself and your concerns, are you true to your values even when there is a headwind? This article is about 20 elements of character strength and how to cultivate them.

Character and strength of character

 

The character describes a person, shows how someone actually is. The character influences significantly how a person is perceived by others.

If a person is considered to have strength of character, this is meant admiringly. It is about the number of positive character traits, especially the moral attitude.

Those who do not disappear uniformly in the masses attract attention and may encounter resistance. Some people are frightened by this. What about you?

Do you stand up for yourself and your concerns, are you committed to your values, even when there is a resistance? Those who cultivate strength of character are more successful and live a more fulfilling, self-determined life.

What are the building blocks of character strength and how can we cultivate it?

20 factors: What is part of the strength of character?

 

Here are 20 factors that contribute to the strength of character.

1. Curiosity

 

Healthy curiosity, in the sense of being interested, is a daily motivator that keeps us active and therefore more agile. The desire for knowledge is physically and mentally demanding, makes us more sociable and happier. Without curiosity as a drive there is no learning, no wisdom.

 

 

 

2. An own opinion

 

Not all of us allow ourselves our own opinion, even fewer people are prepared to stand for their own opinion with self-confidence. Insecure people tend to assimilate in order not to attract negative attention. The fear of rejection and conflicts slows down or paralyzes some people, they are hiding themselves and their opinions.

 

 

 

3. Courage

 

People of weak character are fickle, orienting themselves to the least resistance. They give way at the slightest pressure and prefer to bend rather than bite.

If necessary, personalities with strong character dare to take a bold stand-point for something. They are also not afraid to lead the way, to venture out of the anonymous mass and the comfort zone.

 

 

4. Knowing the own strengths

 

It helps us to be aware of our strengths in a healthy way. Those who know their strengths can cultivate them and use them more effectively.

 

 

 

5. Knowing the own weaknesses

 

Knowing your weaknesses enables you to make better decisions. The willingness to dedicate oneself to personal development and, if necessary, to make peace with the fact that something cannot be turned into a strength despite all the effort involved, helps.

 

 

 

6. Loyalty

 

Loyalty requires personality. Loyalty means faithfulness and reliability. It is expressed towards spouses, friends, family, employers, etc.
Loyalty may also require you to put your interests aside for the benefit of others.

People of strong character know their values and priorities and pay attention to ethical behavior. They are also prepared to tread uncomfortable paths.

 

 

 

7. Honesty

 

Honesty and sincerity are important virtues. With honesty, we combine reliability, commitment, and openness. To be truthful about what is said, even when it is uncomfortable, requires strength of character.

 

 

 

8. Willingness to take responsibility

 

The willingness to take responsibility also includes admitting mistakes. People with strong minds take full responsibility for their actions and learn from the feedback instead of trying to use excuses. This sometimes includes the willingness and ability to apologize when it is time to do so.

 

 

 

9. Patience

 

Constructive patience is an important quality of a strong personality. This includes the willingness to remain true to oneself despite short-term rewards and temptations. Only this way it is to master greater challenges.

10. To know our priorities and values

 

People of strong character know their priorities and remain true to themselves and their values. I know from most people of strong character that they deal with philosophical issues. They wouldn’t call it that personally, but they are dedicated to higher goals and visions. This has a very strengthening effect on the personality.

 

 

 

11. Willingness to stand up for other people

 

The willingness to stand up for other people, even if it involves personal disadvantages, requires strength. Promises can be made, but doing it is not so common.

 

 

 

12. Self-reflection

 

Self-reflection paves the way for personal development where other people obstruct themselves. Self-reflection fosters learning and good decisions. Those who know themselves well are much harder to manipulate and live their own lives. This frees and activates potential.

 

 

 

13. Be at peace with oneself

 

Bruises, unprocessed traumas, and limiting beliefs make us more vulnerable to manipulation. Those who are occupied with themselves unnecessarily are distracted. Being mentally tidy promotes focus, more resources are available for important tasks.

Being at peace with oneself makes life easier; thinking and acting are congruent. Actions arise from their own decisions, which in turn are based on their values. Decisions are not externally controlled or based on deficits.

 

 

 

14. Not having to prove anything

 

Having nothing to prove is so liberating. Where some dazzlers loudly offer more illusion than reality, personalities of strong characters do not have to prove anything. Another reason why people of strong character can be more authentic and relaxed.

 

 

 

15. Focus

 

Those who are engaged everywhere hardly get anywhere and sooner or later become tired. Some tasks deserve to be given the appropriate attention. This requires priorities and focus.

 

 

 

16. Being present

 

Being in the present sounds easier than it is sometimes. Some people prefer to reminisce about the highlights of the past. Others dream of a distant paradise-like future instead of working on it. There is not much to recognize of attentive contact with other people.

 

 

 

17. Benevolence

 

Strong people can wish other people good luck and treat them well. Strong personalities are not afraid of other people achieving something.

Weak ones are often afraid that other people’s successes will set them back themselves. This is particularly evident with narcissists.

 

 

 

18. Keep pushing

 

Setbacks or even traumatic experiences can be painful. They can leave behind serious injuries and break people. However, they can also promote immense personal growth.

Strong people are resilient and take setbacks as feedback. They learn from it and start again. Each experience is a chance to get closer to their goal.

 

 

 

19. Indulgence

 

To stand firm for oneself and one’s convictions are compatible with considering other points of view, exchanging views respectfully, complementing one another, learning. People of strong character are self-confident and this allows benevolence towards other people, while insecure people try to protect themselves and their position through ignorance. People make mistakes and it is good to forgive oneself and others for that.

 

 

 

20. Creating instead of being a victim

 

It requires strength of character to continue upright even in strong headwinds. People who are focused on the possibilities remain more constructive than those who consider themselves victims of the circumstances. 

How can character strength be cultivated?

 

The mentioned character traits provide the direction. In coaching, I take a closer look at the status and goals of my clients. This is often very personal when personal development is meant seriously. Then we proceed step by step, mentally and concretely. The strength of character can be cultivated in many ways. The important thing is to live character strength.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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Do you pay attention to your strength of character? Do you stand up for yourself and others, your values, and your concerns, even when there is a strong headwind? How authentically do you act?

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18 tips to increase your assertiveness

18 tips to increase your assertiveness

This will improve your assertiveness
This will improve your assertiveness

Assertiveness

 

Learn how to gain and apply assertiveness. In this article you will get 18 recommendations for more assertiveness in private and professional life.

What is assertiveness?

 

Assertiveness is a type of behavior that is used to express one’s needs in a healthy, prosocial manner. Being assertive can be beneficial in a variety of social settings, although there can also be consequences of being excessively assertive.

Being assertive won’t come easy to everyone. Some people are naturally more assertive than others. If you aren’t, you can learn to be assertive fairly easily.

 

 

 

Assertiveness and persuasiveness

 

Assertiveness depends on persuasiveness. What needs to be convincing is inseparably linked to the person who wants to realize his or her intentions. Besides the quality and attractiveness of the offer, its compelling presentation is also important. How we are perceived has a great impact on our assertiveness and is a major factor in determining whether we can gain trust and support or whether we will be met with resistance. This applies not only in the professional context but also in the private sphere.

 

 

 

Strengthen your assertiveness with these 18 tips

 

There are many ways to strengthen your assertiveness: charisma, technical and social skills, rhetorical and communicative abilities as well as negotiating skills all have a positive effect. Experiences also play a major role, although they take some time to mature as a personality. Other factors can be learned, especially non-verbal communication. And here are 18 tips:

 

 

 

1. Know yourself

 

If you know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses, values and priorities, goals, or even vision, your role, it is much easier.
It is a lifelong task to deal with fundamental questions and to practice self-reflection. It is worth it!

Healthy self-assurance is based on self-confidence and self-awareness, i.e. the knowledge of personal characteristics, strengths and potentials, experiences, and expectations of self-efficacy. This is reflected in consistent perception, thinking, and acting.

 

 

 

2. Clear goals

 

Clarify your goals and priorities for yourself and then deliver clear messages. If you do not fully understand your goals, it will be difficult to communicate them. But this is exactly what is required.

It is important to have manageable goals over a foreseeable period that are pursued consistently. Afterward, check how the goal has been achieved and what can be learned.

Achieving small goals boosts self-confidence and encourages you to face new challenges, thus improving your assertiveness over time.

 

 

 

3. Remain loyal to your values

 

Assertive people need not be ruthless egoists.

Even if you have the power to assert something in the event of resistance or to disregard recognized values, you would rather remain true to yourself. Otherwise, it will be a superficial victory. The end does not justify the means!

 

 

 

4. Dealing with those who think differently

 

If you want to push something through, you have to expect rejection as soon as it causes changes for others. This is not only the case when it comes to actual change, but also the presumed effects and intentions. Put yourself in the perspective of other people.

Transparency and credibility can prevent or at least reduce resistance. Remember that the meaning of a message is ultimately determined by the recipient. Therefore, an appropriate form of communication should be chosen to minimize the probability of misunderstandings.

Don’t get drawn into slinging matches, even if the other person gets angry. Stay calm. Listen to what the other person is saying. You can empathize with someone else’s feelings without necessarily agreeing with him or her and giving in to the other point of view. If a point of view is tenable, there are convincing, reasonable arguments for it. Then it is also possible to point out the advantages.

Aggressiveness, on the other hand, is an indication that your issues have not been clarified.

Concentrate on finding a solution to a problem rather than trying to win the argument.

 

 

 

5. Pressure compared to openness

 

Pressure produces counter-pressure, this principle is known from physics. However, this principle can also be applied to communication. The one who asserts himself at any cost makes his counterpart an opponent and evokes rejection, even if the result would be beneficial to others. If, on the other hand, you demonstrate that you only use your power when it is really necessary, you allow your counterpart to participate in the process and thus reduce resistance.

 

 

 

6. Mental balance

 

We constantly reveal information about ourselves. Body language signals, in particular, convey whether one believes in what he says. This is particularly relevant in negotiation situations, in which interlocutors usually observe each other closely and critically question the motives of the others. In such moments, thoughtless body language makes you vulnerable. But it expresses what is going on inside us.

Assertiveness requires a convincing appearance. Those who have lost their mental balance find themselves in a state of imbalance. In that case, you have less access to the resources otherwise available.

Therefore, it is important to train to restore the inner balance as quickly as possible when it has been lost. In emotionally emotional moments, for example in situations that are perceived as an attack, we usually react quickly without thinking about the consequences.

The better I know myself and my priorities, the easier it is for me to say “No!” confidently. Those who know themselves and their weaknesses are more autonomous, pay more attention to themselves and their concerns, and communicate more confidently.

7. Inappropriate reactions

 

An important first step is learning what assertiveness is and what it looks like, as well as the difference between assertiveness and aggression. The likelihood that the first reaction is also the best possible decreases with the degree of negative emotional content. Especially in the case of anger, it is advisable to regain balance and act after the anger is gone. An appropriate, possibly even benevolent reaction conveys sovereignty, increases one’s status, and thus also one’s assertiveness. On the other hand, those who act harshly are accused of weakness and insecurity. Even constant yielding is not sensible: it results in discrimination, weakens one’s reputation and the assertiveness is lost. However, those who always assert themselves are accused that it is not about the object, but only about personal success.

In addition to those two extremes, some alternatives aim to take responsibility and show commitment to oneself and one’s cause. The focus should be on convincingly representing one’s interests and personal values, while at the same time inviting the other person to take part in a joint project. To do this, it is necessary to appreciate the opinions of others as well as to deal with resistance. This reflects the whole appearance and especially body language.

 

 

 

8. The role of body language

 

Non-verbal communication plays a major role in many aspects, although too little attention is often paid to it. While arguments are usually well-prepared, body language is usually left to coincidence. However, body language often says something different from what verbal expressions are supposed to convey. Especially when you try to pretend or suppress something.

Especially in negotiation situations many people want to present themselves advantageously and do not want to let their excitement be noticed. The result then usually does not meet expectations because the inner pressure is very strong and paralyzes both physical and mental agility. Instead of trying to be an actor, it is advisable to perform authentically and professionally. After all, it’s all about presenting yourself and what you offer convincingly. To do this, the verbal and non-verbal elements of the communication have to match: Assertive body language is calm and strong, whereas aggressive body language is tense and intimidating, and passive body language is weak. Keeping good eye contact and limiting loud gestures are great ways to maintain that middle ground.

 

 

 

9. How congruent is your voice?

 

The impact of the voice is immense, for better or worse. Many details are transported by the voice, whether we want it or not. The listeners derive from it how we are and how we relate to our statements.

To use the voice effectively, it is worth working on the inner attitude, vocal technique, and vocal care.

 

 

 

10. Clear messages instead of softeners

 

Choose your words carefully. Focus on clear and concise messages. Simple sentences, understandable language … consider the basics of communication.

This also includes avoiding the use of softeners that take the power out of your statements. And be careful with generalities. As powerful as language can be, as easily we shoot ourselves in the foot.

 

 

 

11. Putting words into action

 

Assertiveness is also based on strong motivation. Personal values provide a basic foundation, which are meaningful guidelines for our actions. Those who formulate and live their values find stability and orientation, also for the assessment of their behavior.

With a well-thought-out plan, especially complex projects become verifiable even before the start: In a sense, a concept provides the blueprint for implementation and provides an overview of the tasks at hand. To move these forward more quickly, priorities are set, i.e. important and less important steps are defined. Arranging the sequence of tasks according to importance and urgency helps to simplify the process and to deploy resources sensibly.

But ultimately only actions can turn a project into reality because the best planning is of little use without consistent implementation. The environment registers how committed we are to our work, and credibility increases when what has been said is put into practice.

 

 

 

12. Dealing with obstacles

 

Obstacles often do not appear unexpectedly; many are foreseeable or announce themselves. By taking problems into account, appropriate solutions can be prepared in advance. If you have a plan B, you can deal with difficulties in a more relaxed manner.

Others also observe how we deal with obstacles. A lot can be said, but these moments show just how ready we are to act. A lot can be said, but these moments show just how ready we are to act. One positive effect is that every situation we master strengthens us. Trust in our actions and judgments increases. Credibility and the effect on others also benefit from this.

 

 

 

13. Flexibility, movement, and stability

 

Flexibility means a fundamentally positive attitude towards change. But not all innovations are always appreciated. Some are perceived as unproblematic, while others give us the feeling that we are losing the basis of our familiar life. Changes are, whether we like it or not, a part of life. Therefore, it is worthwhile to adapt to them. Being flexible also means to discover various possibilities in new situations.

The right balance between appreciating and stabilizing what has been achieved, openness to change, and the willingness to evolve ensure flexibility. Those who rest on their success for too long lose their grip and are no longer perceived accordingly.

 

 

 

14. A convincing presentation

 

The more attractive a goal is, the easier it is to convince other people of it. However, all these advantages are of no use if it is not possible to convince the relevant target group. Without the willingness to stand up for a statement as a personality, many potentials remain unexploited.

It is necessary to clearly define one’s objective. If you do not do this yourself, you will experience that other people will do it for you. The description resulting from this often does not correspond with your interests.

Knowledge and skills are therefore needed to successfully convey an offer. This is a competence that can be learned.

 

 

 

15. Keep pushing

 

Show stamina. It serves the current project and also future ones if it is recognized that you stick to your plans.

Once you have earned the reputation of sticking to it, doubters become less frequent.

 

 

 

16. Be prepared

 

Explore the perspectives, put yourself in the shoes of other positions. Collect information such as numbers, dates, facts, and about the characteristics of the persons involved. What are their motives, fears, and personal patterns?

The better prepared you are, the more effectively you will communicate. If you care about a concern, prepare yourself well – with professional support if necessary.

 

 

 

17. Relationships

 

Each of us is dependent on other people. Reaching out to social networks and experts helps us find the support we need for our projects. Interpersonal relationships deserve special attention for this reason too.

While being assertive generally leads to better outcomes in many aspects of life, being overly assertive can also hurt relationships. The solution lies in a competent, respectful interaction with people. Assertiveness is not the ability to realize ideas against, but together with other people.

 

 

 

18. Willingness to learn

 

Evaluate your experiences, and especially the setbacks. Think about the consequences and what you want to do differently in the future. This way you will constantly become better in whatever you do. 

What next?

 

Assertiveness is a characteristic that can be trained in small steps. Stand up for your concerns, while remaining committed to your values. It is easier to behave respectfully with each other than against each other.

Preparation of important conversations and negotiations

 

Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?

More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.

You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

Please read the information about the privacy policy.

P.S.

 

What is your opinion regarding assertiveness?

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The importance of showing appreciation: 10 good reasons to show appreciation

The Importance of Showing Appreciation: 10 Good Reasons To Show Appreciation

Why appreciation matters so much.
The Importance of Appreciation

Showing appreciation to other people

 

We all need to know that we’re important in other people’s lives. We humans need to be noticed and valued — in private and business life. Why do I believe that it is so important to show appreciation? Because…

The Importance of Appreciation

Why appreciation matters so much

 

At least in Germany, the term “appreciation” degenerates into a buzzword; today it is used inflationary and is seldom meant honestly. Although appreciation is often confused with praise and recognition for achievements, real appreciation goes much further. It regards colleagues as human beings who are valuable because of their abilities, personality, and uniqueness. Regardless of their position in the company, each employee has enormous potential in different areas.

Respect, recognition, and benevolence are a part of appreciation lived. Appreciation is characterized by interest, attention, devotion, and friendliness.

Appreciation is a fundamental human need in both professional and private life. We want to be appreciated by what we are, what we do, and what we achieve. We all need to know that we’re important in other people’s lives. And we need to feel that we are appreciated — in private in business life. It doesn’t matter whether your office is a boardroom, classroom, or anywhere else. We all want to be noticed and valued. Appreciation is at the core of all healthy relationships. Most of us feel like we don’t get enough appreciation. Did you know that one of the main reasons people leave their jobs is because of a lack of appreciation? It’s demoralizing when you’re not recognized for your efforts and skills. There are a lot of people who do things for you every day. Employees, colleagues, family, and friends are expected to do their part. Do they know that you appreciate them? Let others know that you appreciate them.

Why do I believe that it is so important to show appreciation? Because…

Appreciation is powerful. 10 good reasons to show appreciation

 

Appreciation is the act of giving something or someone their proper value, and everybody has value. The value in a relationship is important because it lets a person know where they stand, and what they mean to you; appreciation is a way of letting that person know what you value. There are plenty of powerful benefits to the recipient and giver as well. Here are a few examples.

Apply appreciation to your relationships in business and private life and you will…

 

1. … make other people happy.

 

Appreciation is a fundamental human need in both professional and private life. We want to be appreciated by what we are, what we do, and what we achieve.

 

 

 

2. … make yourself happy.

 

When you express your appreciation for someone, you will not only improve their lives but yours as well. You will feel more fulfilled because you have done something to make someone else’s life better. It will change your mindset. Our mood and daily outlooks change when we focus on positive things rather than negative.

 

 

 

3. … boost moral.

 

Appreciation boots moral. It has the largest effect on trust when it occurs immediately after a goal has been met, when it comes from peers, and when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.

 

 

 

4. … motivate others.

 

One of the easiest and most effective ways to motivate others is by appreciating them. When you praise or appreciate someone, it indicates that you have recognized their effort. It may encourage them to go the extra mile. Giving recognition inspires greatness in others.

 

 

 

5. … build trust in relationships.

 

Gratitude makes us nicer, more trusting, more social, and more appreciative. As a result, it helps us make more friends, deepen our existing relationships, and improve our marriage. Those who express appreciation with others are more committed to them and more likely to stay in the relationship.

 

 

 

6. … show respect.

 

Respect is an essential ingredient for healthy relationships.

 

 

 

7. … deepen your relationships.

 

When you look for the good instead of the bad in the surrounding people, you begin to notice just how interesting they are. You will engage at a higher level. It will accelerate the relationship-building process and enhance their overall impression of you.

 

 

 

8. … see more clearly what counts.

 

Your focus change and will be more positive.

 

 

 

9. … see more innovative results.

 

Employees who recognize their team members experience a huge increase in innovation.

 

 

 

10. … increase your effectiveness.

 

Giving appreciation has a direct impact on results. For example; employees who give or get appreciation experience a huge increase in work results.

 

 

 

How?

 

Go ahead and thank someone for something they’ve done for you. It costs you so little, but it might mean the world to the other person.

Survey results

 

Do you feel appreciated by your employer?

%

Rare to never

%

Just enough

%

Often

Result of a non-representative survey on www.karstennoack.de and among participants attending events of NOACK Training & Coaching Berlin (n= 633)

Appreciation within the company I work for is…

%

rarely meant seriously.

%

usually meant seriously.

Result of a non-representative survey on www.karstennoack.de and among participants attending events of NOACK Training & Coaching Berlin (n= 645)

What can a company do to value its employees?

 

Companies that are serious about appreciation should consistently live the values they share. Unfortunately, this is rather the exception! All the more gratifying that some of my clients are willing to take this step. All too often, it’s all about declarations of intent.

What can each individual employee contribute?

 

Each of us can open our mouths, express ourselves in an appropriate way, and show appreciation to others. By the way, even superiors are still human beings. We cannot say “Thank you!” often enough. It costs so little and brings so much.

And how can I express to my colleagues that I appreciate them?

 

Speak out what is valued about each other. Small gifts maintain friendship; whether verbal or quietly sometimes symbolically tangible. Even an honestly meant smile can speak volumes. And undivided attention, as natural as it should be and yet is not, is also a precious commodity.

Preparation of important conversations and negotiations

 

Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?

More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.

You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

Please read the information about the privacy policy.

P.S.

 

How about taking the time to appreciate someone today? And do you know how to appreciate yourself?

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy

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Get into the ideal mental state with Hypnobalancing™

Get into the ideal mental state with Hypnobalancing™

Discard legacy, recognize and activate strengths, gain insights and clarity, promote condition and charisma.
Hypnobalancing

Hypnobalancing™

 

Hypnobalancing™ helps to work on subconscious topics and to achieve goals. It is a powerful method. With Hypnobalancing™ you can dispose of old burdens, recognize and activate strengths, gain insights and clarity, promote condition and charisma. Find out more here.

Hypnobalancing™

 

Many people know that they are unhappy.
But even more people do not know that they are happy.

Albert Schweitzer

 

There are many descriptions of unpleasant states and especially one in which we can’t access our resources: standing beside ourselves, not being in the middle, not being in balance, being beside ourselves, etc. The desirable state is described as being centered, resting in oneself, …

Hypnobalancing™ promotes this mental state. With Hypnobalancing™, you can release concerns, recognize and activate your strengths, gain insights and clarity, promote a constructive attitude and charisma. That facilitates much in life and lets you enjoy the moment.

 

 

 

 

Why Hypnobalancing™

 

Hypnobalancing™ was developed at the beginning of the millennium as solution-focused psychotherapy. It emerged from flexible-cooperative hypnotherapy and the combination with additional methods. It is inspired by the so-called partial work, the transactional analysis helpful for the consideration of the solution level, by Focusing (Gene Gendlin) and the self-relationship therapy of Stephen Gilligan, the energetic psychology, breath training as well as enriched by elements of NLP.

Today, Hypnobalancing™ is also successfully used in mental training.

 

 

 

Promotion of mental self-organization skills

 

By combining proven methods, Hypnobalancing™ has a harmonizing effect on body and mind, harmonizes them and makes us more agile. In this state of balance, health is a natural inner state, a state in which challenges can be solved more easily because the perception of one’s resources is enhanced.

The conviction that the human psyche is capable of self-organization processes is characteristic of Hypnobalancing™. The purpose of the sessions is to provide the appropriate space for these self-organization processes. If restrictive convictions are resolved, the previously bound energies are released and are now available for constructive life design.

 

 

 

Perception, thinking and acting

 

Decisive for positive change is how a person deals with himself inwardly. It is helpful to be able to include physical sensations and not to orientate oneself exclusively on supposedly logical thoughts. If this ability is promoted, it has a very significant influence on perception, thinking, and action.

Hypnobalancing™ makes thinking and acting more productive, creative, supportive and encouraging. The inner balance achieved is a resource that can be used in many ways, as personal changes are easier in this attitude. The achieved state of inner equilibrium is very helpful in itself because it makes it easier to find solutions, and the design and implementation of these solutions gain momentum.

A Chinese proverb says, “If the roots are deep, you don’t have to fear the wind.”

 

 

 

Applications and forms of the Hypnobalancing™

 

Ursprünglich für den Einsatz bei Ängsten und Angststörungen entwickelt, hat sich Hypnobalancing™ auch in anderen Bereichen als sehr wirksam erwiesen. Es existieren heute verschiedene methodische Formen des Hypobalancing™, wie beispielsweise das 6 Phasen Hypnobalancing™ und Deep Hypnobalancing™.

 

 

 

Deep Hypnobalancing™

 

It is difficult to find happiness in us, and it is quite impossible to find it elsewhere.

Nicolas Chamfort

 

Deep Hypnobalancing™ is a technique of Hypnobalancing™. In this variant, particularly deep trance states are created. These pleasant states are used for solutions on a deep level and to promote personal balance harmoniously.

Deep Hypnobalancing™ uses few targeted suggestions for change when reaching this deep trance state, it primarily uses the state as such. The perceptible inner balance is experienced as very pleasant. The achieved balance opens up resources that can be used many times over because in this state access and reorganization are easier.

Typical topics

 

  • Know your live purpose
    Being stuck in inability to act or disorientation frustrated leads to a dissatisfied life, far from the possibilities.
  • Motivation
    Resolve blockages by uncovering the causes
  • Fears
    Fears for the future, stage fright, speech anxiety, etc.
  • Self-sabotage
  • Mobbing
  • Burnout
  • Self-confidence
  • Creativity
  • Exam situations
  • Change
  • Performance
  • Recognition of one’s own strengths and talents
  • Stress

What happens during Hypnoblancing?

 

What exactly happens during a session depends on the situation. Every person is different.

The Hypnobalancing™ uses goal-oriented traditional and modern hypnosis techniques with light, medium and very deep trance. A variety of methods of flexible-cooperative hypnotherapy, such as Hypnobalancing™, are combined with techniques of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and other proven methods of mental training. All these techniques have a harmonizing effect on the body and psyche. They accelerate the process of achieving individual goals. In a guided trance the mind has more possibilities to access personal resources. Restrictive and blocking beliefs from the past are revealed and changed. Positive beliefs are then strengthened.

Your hypno coach

 

What is a hypno coach? This is a very experienced coach with appropriate training in hypnotherapy and experience in mental training. In my case, there are a few more training courses to be added. For some topics of clients an appropriate admission to the practice of psychotherapy is required. I have obtained this admission.

My profile gives you more information about the background I use to practice effective hypno coaching. Trance and mental training have accompanied me since I was 16 years old and have helped me very well.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

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P.S.

 

Do you have private or occupational blockages and would like to give your life a desirable, happy and successful direction or want to reach a particularly ambitious goal?

Concentration is goal-oriented motivation.

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Professional impact analysis: How are you perceived by other people?

Professional impact analysis: How are you perceived by other people?

How do you and your messages affect the audience?
17 hints that someone is a manipulator

Self-perception and impact analysis

 

How do you affect people in conversations, speeches, and presentations, in interviews? We all have our blind spots. It has a good reason, because for experts, company representatives and politicians, the impact analysis is part of the preparation of a speech, presentation, statement, interview or discussion. To explore the effect before the real event has a lot of advantages. How do you and your message affect your audience? 

Do you know how you affect other people? 

 

How do you interact with other people when you meet them? For example, how do you communicate in meetings and presentations? We communicate constantly. Yes, you too! And even if you do not intend to. Whether we want it or not; much of what we do or do not do is perceived and interpreted by others. Your messages are not always understood as you want it to be.

 

 

 

Professional impact analysis

 

For experts, many professional company spokespersons, company representatives, and politicians, the impact analysis is part of the preparation of a performance, such as speeches, presentations, statements, interviews, discussions. So you can explore the effect even before the performance in front of an audience. This will tell you in advance how you and your message will be perceived.

 

 

 

Honest and constructive feedback

 

The more influential your position in a company is, the more you are under observation. Then every moment becomes an appearance in front of an audience. Every detail gets meaning. Whether in the media, at events and even in seemingly private situations; every word that is said and omitted can be interpreted. Every detail shapes the image that the public has in mind about you and your message.

  • How do you affect others?
  • How are you understood?
  • Which image do you convey?
  • In which aspects can you improve?

 

I will give you a useful picture of how you are perceived in public. This is particularly beneficial for executives and representatives of companies, associations, and political parties.

 

 

 

Impact analysis

 

Just a few thoughtless words in front of the audience, microphone and camera can have consequences. For this reason, it is worthwhile to prepare carefully for important situations. For many professional company spokespersons, company representatives and politicians, the impact analysis is part of the preparation.

Even many experienced speakers are not so experienced when it comes to media appearances. It does not belong to everyday life for everyone. To master such situations you need to be sovereign in front of the camera and studio situations, provocative journalist questions and vehement attacks of an opponent in a debate or podium discussion.

Better safe than sorry. Afterward, we are often smarter, but then it is a bit too late. Better: An impact analysis provides a speaker with professional feedback before the actual event. Get feedback before the critics get their turn. Why should you take unnecessary risks? Why should you give up a successful performance? Prepare for crucial situations. Rehearse. Get feedback for it. This allows you to experience the impact beforehand and to optimize it if necessary.

 

 

 

Elements of impact analysis

 

  • Voice
  • Body language
  • Stage presence, enthusiasm, and credibility
  • Choice of words and style
  • Emotional response
  • Arguments and strategy
  • Red thread and structure
  • Key messages
  • Professional repartee
  • Risk analysis
  • Foreseeable effects
  • Act in front of a microphone and camera
  • Dealing with provocative questions and attacks

 

 

 

Your impact analysis

 

How are you perceived and what can you improve to convincingly present yourself and your message?

Based on your impact analysis, you receive recommendations that help you to optimize your appearance. If you wish, you will receive targeted support for your sovereignty, charisma, and self-marketing for speeches and media appearances. I support you from the impact analysis, optimization up to the dress rehearsal or even the accompaniment to the performance. You decide!

The impact analysis can be booked individually from a duration of 60 minutes or is the beginning of more comprehensive support for the preparation of an event. This is also possible with sessions via telephone or with video support.

You decide how extensive the analysis is. Many factors affect how you are perceived. Here are examples:

 

 

 

1. Direct analysis

 

A brief meeting is enough to get your first feedback on how you affect other people. You will learn from me immediately a lot about your verbal and body language effect, as well as ways to improve.

 

 

 

2. Evaluation of events

 

In addition to the direct analysis, various sources can be consulted; Recordings of interviews, TV appearances, speeches, social media, etc.

 

 

 

3. Qualitative interviews

 

Qualitative interviews with relevant target groups are used to analyze interesting aspects.

Then you will receive your personal and honest impact analysis. The whole truth or perception of your person!

 

 

 

4. Feedback

 

With this feedback and recommendations, you’ll have what you need to know when you choose to balance expectations with you and your demeanor to reach and convince your audience.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

Please read the information about the privacy policy.

P.S.

 

How well do you actually know yourself? What would you like to know about yourself and how you are perceived by other people?

To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.

 Socrates

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Charisma and presence: What do you radiate, how present are you?

Charisma And Presence: What Do You Radiate, How Present Are You?

Be compelling, in conversations and presentations
How Present Are You? What About Your Appearance?

How present are you?

 

What does it mean to be present and what is it good for? Learn how to become more present in conversations and presentations.

What does presence and to be present mean?

 

What does it mean to be present? Being present is shown, for example, when a person enters a room and attracts other people’s attention. Some people don’t even have to say a single word, but the audience already feels that something special is starting.

Being present at the moment means listening to oneself and others, focusing on the present, being grateful and learning from mistakes. It’s also about slowing down to focus on the beauty that surrounds us every day. The act of presence is in a way a meditation without meditation. But the silence here comes from one action – breathing, caring, observing, letting go and breathing again. This simple cycle can fundamentally change the way we experience our world.

 

 

 

Strong personal impact and attraction

 

The secret of a strong personal impact and attraction lies in the ability to draw attention to oneself and the offer – in an appropriate natural way. Whether we are seen and heard depends on our appearance, eye contact, posture and body tension, speed and attunement to the communication habits of the environment. The source of this comes from within. Our thoughts – especially our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us – have a great impact. The focus is on our core values. Presence has a lot to do with respect, which comes as an authentic expression. This is based on the certainty of being something special and – perhaps more importantly – on the appreciation of the people around us.

Presence has a lot to do with mindfulness. Jon Kabat-Zinn, who has written several fantastic books on adult mindfulness, defines mindfulness as “paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”

 

 

 

How present are you?

 

A quite common topic of my clients in coaching is the presence. While the term presence itself can hardly ever be heard at first, it is an important element in achieving many goals. Normally it starts with feedback like the following.

 

Mr. or Mrs. Doe …

    • is not a leader
    • is too cautious
    • has difficulties to lead groups
    • does not have sufficient communication skills
    • isn’t a role model
    • conveys no natural respect
    • is neither personally convinced, nor convincing to other people
    • hides his potentials

 

 

There’s more pleasant feedback than that. But such feedback is of high value if someone is willing to learn. Unfortunately, many people reject this kind of feedback. These and similar feedback can be interpreted as evidence of a lack of personal presence. Ignoring it does not lead to a desirable result.

 

 

 

Is it as it is, or is there anything I can do about it?

 

Not every person is born with a personality that radiates presence. Some may need some support to become more present. For example, if someone believes in this person in the company, with a little luck they will get the necessary support. Then the appropriate skills can be acquired if the willingness is there. But not everyone gets feedback and support. In this case, it requires self-reflection and personal effort. But only a few people work on these potentials themselves. Most people leave it as it is because they believe that it is as it is. They are convinced that this cannot be changed. Presumably, that is something genetic! That is convenient and wrong. The truth is: You can change that and I will show you how you can be more present. Without a mask and from the inside out, authentic. 

 

 

 

The lack of qualified feedback

 

Especially for people in management positions such as CEOs, freelancers and the self-employed, it is more difficult to receive qualified feedback and then develop their potential.

Use professional feedback to learn more about yourself and decide what you want to improve. Make sure that your personality matches your message.

Preparation of important conversations and negotiations

 

Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?

More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.

You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.

Preparation of important speeches and presentations

 

Those who do not speak are not heard and even those who speak up are not always successful. There are a few more steps that need to be mastered. 

You want to convince with your message and also as a personality? Then I will help you to prepare your speeches and presentations. You determine the scope. At least I recommend a test run with professional feedback for you and your message. Then you will know how you and your content are perceived, what you should do and what you should leave out, where there is potential. Why do you want to get such helpful feedback so late after your real performance? Then it is too late for adjustments. Benefit from the advantage. My definition of luck: Preparation meets opportunity.

You can best estimate for yourself where the effort is worthwhile concerning the expected benefit. Here you will find the fees for my support (communication, psychology, language, structure, voice, body language, storytelling, rhetorical means, media such as PowerPoint and Co., etc.)

You are not in Berlin right now? Then choose meetings with me via telephone or video support. Whereby there are quite good reasons for a trip to Berlin.

By the way, many people suffer from such intense stage fright in front of an audience and therefore their performance lags behind their possibilities. Too bad, because with my help a performance in a good condition is possible. Just in case...

A good start: Professional feedback with recommendations for improvements

 

How convincing are you and your messages in speeches and presentations? How good are you in the 111+ most important presentation skills? I have been analyzing speeches since 1998. After evaluating 14,375 speeches and presentations, I can tell you very precisely what has which effect on which audience. Let me give you the feedback that will help you get ahead. You will receive essential feedback and recommendations, as well as the impulses you need to convince your audience in concrete situations.

Are you interested? Then you will find here the information on feedback with recommendations for improvements of speeches and presentations.

Just ask me personally

 

Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.

Please read the information about the privacy policy.

P.S.

 

What does being present look like for you? Is there someone you think is particularly present? What makes this person so present?

May you live all the days of your life. Jonathan Swift

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