Charisma And Presence: What Do You Radiate, How Present Are You?Be compelling, in conversations and presentations
How present are you?
What does it mean to be present and what is it good for? Learn how to become more present in conversations and presentations.
What does it mean to be present? Being present is shown, for example, when a person enters a room and attracts other people’s attention. Some people don’t even have to say a single word, but the audience already feels that something special is starting.
Being present at the moment means listening to oneself and others, focusing on the present, being grateful and learning from mistakes. It’s also about slowing down to focus on the beauty that surrounds us every day. The act of presence is in a way a meditation without meditation. But the silence here comes from one action – breathing, caring, observing, letting go and breathing again. This simple cycle can fundamentally change the way we experience our world.
The secret of a strong personal impact and attraction lies in the ability to draw attention to oneself and the offer – in an appropriate natural way. Whether we are seen and heard depends on our appearance, eye contact, posture and body tension, speed and attunement to the communication habits of the environment. The source of this comes from within. Our thoughts – especially our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us – have a great impact. The focus is on our core values. Presence has a lot to do with respect, which comes as an authentic expression. This is based on the certainty of being something special and – perhaps more importantly – on the appreciation of the people around us.
Presence has a lot to do with mindfulness. Jon Kabat-Zinn, who has written several fantastic books on adult mindfulness, defines mindfulness as “paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”
A quite common topic of my clients in coaching is the presence. While the term presence itself can hardly ever be heard at first, it is an important element in achieving many goals. Normally it starts with feedback like the following.
Mr. or Mrs. Doe …
- is not a leader
- is too cautious
- has difficulties to lead groups
- does not have sufficient communication skills
- isn’t a role model
- conveys no natural respect
- is neither personally convinced, nor convincing to other people
- hides his potentials
There’s more pleasant feedback than that. But such feedback is of high value if someone is willing to learn. Unfortunately, many people reject this kind of feedback. These and similar feedback can be interpreted as evidence of a lack of personal presence. Ignoring it does not lead to a desirable result.
Not every person is born with a personality that radiates presence. Some may need some support to become more present. For example, if someone believes in this person in the company, with a little luck they will get the necessary support. Then the appropriate skills can be acquired if the willingness is there. But not everyone gets feedback and support. In this case, it requires self-reflection and personal effort. But only a few people work on these potentials themselves. Most people leave it as it is because they believe that it is as it is. They are convinced that this cannot be changed. Presumably, that is something genetic! That is convenient and wrong. The truth is: You can change that and I will show you how you can be more present. Without a mask and from the inside out, authentic.
Especially for people in management positions such as CEOs, freelancers and the self-employed, it is more difficult to receive qualified feedback and then develop their potential.
Use professional feedback to learn more about yourself and decide what you want to improve. Make sure that your personality matches your message.
Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?
More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.
You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.
Those who do not speak are not heard and even those who speak up are not always successful. There are a few more steps that need to be mastered.
You want to convince with your message and also as a personality? Then I will help you to prepare your speeches and presentations. You determine the scope. At least I recommend a test run with professional feedback for you and your message. Then you will know how you and your content are perceived, what you should do and what you should leave out, where there is potential. Why do you want to get such helpful feedback so late after your real performance? Then it is too late for adjustments. Benefit from the advantage. My definition of luck: Preparation meets opportunity.
You can best estimate for yourself where the effort is worthwhile concerning the expected benefit. Here you will find the fees for my support (communication, psychology, language, structure, voice, body language, storytelling, rhetorical means, media such as PowerPoint and Co., etc.)
By the way, many people suffer from such intense stage fright in front of an audience and therefore their performance lags behind their possibilities. Too bad, because with my help a performance in a good condition is possible. Just in case...
How convincing are you and your messages in speeches and presentations? How good are you in the 111+ most important presentation skills? I have been analyzing speeches since 1998. After evaluating 14,375 speeches and presentations, I can tell you very precisely what has which effect on which audience. Let me give you the feedback that will help you get ahead. You will receive essential feedback and recommendations, as well as the impulses you need to convince your audience in concrete situations.
Are you interested? Then you will find here the information on feedback with recommendations for improvements of speeches and presentations.
Let's get into a conversation. Please post any questions that may be interesting for other readers in the comments. If you are interested in coaching or training, for personal questions about that and appointments you can reach me best by e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org), phone +49(0)30 864 213 68, and mobile phone +49(0)1577 704 53 56.