Charisma And Presence: What Do You Radiate, How Present Are You?Be compelling, in conversations and presentations
How present are you?
What does it mean to be present and what is it good for? Learn how to become more present in conversations and presentations.
What does it mean to be present? Being present is shown, for example, when a person enters a room and attracts other people’s attention. Some people don’t even have to say a single word, but the audience already feels that something special is starting.
Being present at the moment means listening to oneself and others, focusing on the present, being grateful and learning from mistakes. It’s also about slowing down to focus on the beauty that surrounds us every day. The act of presence is in a way a meditation without meditation. But the silence here comes from one action – breathing, caring, observing, letting go and breathing again. This simple cycle can fundamentally change the way we experience our world.
The secret of a strong personal impact and attraction lies in the ability to draw attention to oneself and the offer – in an appropriate natural way. Whether we are seen and heard depends on our appearance, eye contact, posture and body tension, speed and attunement to the communication habits of the environment. The source of this comes from within. Our thoughts – especially our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us – have a great impact. The focus is on our core values. Presence has a lot to do with respect, which comes as an authentic expression. This is based on the certainty of being something special and – perhaps more importantly – on the appreciation of the people around us.
Presence has a lot to do with mindfulness. Jon Kabat-Zinn, who has written a number of fantastic books on adult mindfulness, defines mindfulness as “paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”
A quite common topic of my clients in coaching is the presence. While the term presence itself can hardly ever be heard at first, it is an important element in achieving many goals. Normally it starts with a feedback like the following.
Mr. or Mrs. Doe …
- is not a leader
- is too cautious
- has difficulties to lead groups
- does not have sufficient communication skills
- isn’t a role model
- conveys no natural respect
- is neither personally convinced, nor convincing to other people
- hides his potentials
There’s more pleasant feedback, than that. But such feedback is of high value if the deserved attention gets and is not immediately pushed aside. These and similar answers can be interpreted as evidence of a lack of personal presence. Ignoring it does not lead to a desirable result.
Not every person is born with a personality that radiates presence. Some may need some support to become more present. For example, if someone believes in this person in the company, with a little luck they will get the necessary support. Then the appropriate skills can be acquired if the willingness is there. But not everyone gets feedback and support. In this case it requires self-reflection and personal effort. But only a few people work on these potentials themselves. Most people leave it as it is because they believe that it is as it is. They are convinced that this cannot be changed. Presumably that is something genetic! That is convenient and wrong. The truth is: You can change that and I will show you how you can be more present. Without a mask and from the inside out, authentic.
Especially for people in management positions such as CEOs, freelancers and the self-employed, it is more difficult to receive qualified feedback and then develop their potential.
Use professional feedback to learn more about yourself and decide what you want to improve. Make sure that your personality matches your message.