You Want to Avoid Criticism?Use feedback instead avoiding it
The value of criticism
Is it really a good idea to avoid criticism at all costs? Could criticism have value?
To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing
Aristotle is correct; if you try to hide away to avoid criticism you won’t get anywhere. However, a typical attempt to avoid criticism is not to be seen and heard – flying under the radar. But even by hiding, you could still face criticism.
A fulfilled life is not about avoiding every criticism. Criticism can also be a good sign. There is some evidence that if you don’t meet any critics on your own way, you are probably not going in the right direction. On well-trodden paths …
You have enemies?
That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.
It’s better to have honest criticism than to give or receive false praise. At least you know where you stand!
Better honest criticism than false praise! At least we know where we stand.
Criticism is usually bitter and hard to swallow. This also applies to constructive criticism, but it at least gets us ahead, it makes us better. Such kind of criticism – in the sense of feedback – should not only be welcome, but even encouraged.
Some criticism is also not meant as a source of joy. There are more or less friendly people who have an innate or instilled tendency to concentrate solely on sore points and decompose ideas. They can be very harsh and do not promote motivation. The reasons are different and often of a personal nature, why you don’t want to find anything good in your idea. Often there are conflicts of interest which are not openly mentioned.
And there are these insensitive people with the urge to be ruthless. Some people don’t give a damn as long as they can destroy something. You can’t please them anyway, whatever you say or do. You better not let such people slow you down.
Instead of avoiding criticism, like the devil the holy water, take it rather as what it is; an additional perspective, the point of view of another person. No more and no less!
Published: April 7, 2015
Author: Karsten Noack
Revision: August 17, 2019
Translation: August 17, 2019
German version: https://www.karstennoack.de/sie-wollen-kritik-vermeiden/