Help, am I a narcissist? 8 indications that you are not a narcissist
Are you a narcissist?
Do you wonder if you are a narcissist yourself? Here are 8 indications that you are not a narcissist.
Those who have suffered from narcissists and have become aware of the issue tend to have additional concerns. Often the question gnaws at them whether they are narcissists themselves.
This is very common when one parent has strong narcissistic tendencies. In principle, the worry is a good sign, because narcissists do not see this as a problem.
Probably everyone has qualities in themselves that suit narcissists. Quantity and combination cause toxicity.
Here in a nutshell a few hints that you are not a narcissist:
You have honest friends. Your friends may also give you uncomfortable feedback without being removed from your contact list. Narcissists have admirers around them at best.
2. You listen
You listen because you care about other people and their needs.
You are authentic. Narcissists deceive and masquerade when it matters. As trained manipulators, narcissists know how to get their environment to do what they want.
4. You do like people
You know, other people are an enrichment for the world.
5. You can ask for help
You ask other people for help when needed and you let yourself be supported. Narcissists have the wisdom for themselves and accept only stooges and no experts.
6. Benevolence and the ability to enjoy the happiness of other people
You can be happy for other people. Narcissists are jealous when other people achieve or possess something that, from their point of view, only they are entitled to.
7. the ability to accept criticism
You are willing to admit your mistakes and apologize honestly. Narcissists do not allow their flawless self to get a dent.
You meet other people at eye level and can delegate responsibility if necessary. The ability to act as a team player is a clear indication not to have too dominant narcissistic tendencies.
Individual criteria that belong to the overall picture of a narcissist can be found in many people. Narcissists, under whom people suffer, usually fulfill a variety or even almost all criteria.
Are you honestly worried about being a narcissist? Then it is highly likely that you aren’t!
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