Expecting apologies from narcissists

Expecting apologies from narcissists

Again and again, non-narcissists are under the illusion of receiving an honest apology from narcissistic personalities. You should know; that narcissists don’t really apologize and respond to such demands as if they were under attack.

Overview

• Expecting apologies from narcissists
• Attention
• Apologies and insights
• Typical
• Revenge instead of apology
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Expecting apologies from narcissists

Narcissists strive to appear charming, confident, and even thoughtful. Although they invest some effort in the appearance, this has its limits. What goes too far is expecting personalities with clear narcissistic tendencies to offer insight and sincere apologies. Such things are far too disgusting to them, and they will fight against them.

Attention

This video is not about the diagnosis of pathological narcissists. It’s about avoiding nasty contemporaries and not letting them exploit you. For simplicity, I call people with clear narcissistic tendencies – whether women or men – narcissists here.

Apologies and insights

Ordinary people make mistakes —narcissists don’t. Someone has done something inappropriate from our point of view, and therefore we want at least an apology and insights. An understandable need.
Personalities, with an emotional maturity, approach such a situation with sincerity, openness and the desire to make amends – not so narcissists. For them, it is much more important to protect their shaky self-esteem, no scratch in the facade is allowed. The others are to blame.

Typical

Narcissists do not want to apologize in any case. They do not voluntarily repair the damage they have done and do not admit their mistakes. And then naive non-narcissists come and give themselves the illusion of getting an honest apology. This is unrealistic. Apologies are given at best for strategic reasons. Whether in private, professional or business life; honestly meant apologies require a willingness to learn and require social skills. The offspring of narcissists in particular suffer for a very long time – sometimes for a lifetime – as a result of their failure to apologize. It is important to take very good care of oneself here and to make good decisions. Narcissists do not take responsibility.

Revenge instead of apology

The shame of being forced to apologize leads to feelings of revenge. Sooner or later, this insolence is punished with compound interest. Narcissists make themselves the victim, and you are the perpetrator. If there is the opportunity, you will get the punishment for it, narcissists have a good memory for it. You should know that beforehand!

So what?

May such insights help you better understand what goes on in narcissists. Ultimately, it is your job to take care of yourself and the people you care about.

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This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in group or individual training or coaching.

Published: January 2, 2012
Author: Karsten Noack
Revision: November 19th, 2024
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