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Better smart goals than unfulfilled wishes. Well defined goals for better self-management, more effective meetings, negotiations,… Life is much easier when agreements with ourselves and others are made more clearly and realistically.
So many people have so many good intentions. Few of them are realized. Because very often goals and wishes are confused. But with pure wishful thinking, little can be achieved beyond esotericism. Yes, I liked the 80s with the New Age, and “What’s the Bleep!” was nice too. It regularly requires more than just dreaming.
Personal declarations of intent in which only one person is involved – ourselves – are already difficult enough. This explains why agreements have their pitfalls with an increasing number of people. In meetings with 10 participants, there are frequently 11 opinions on what was agreed upon.
Whether in meetings, negotiations or your planning: The prerequisite for goal-oriented action is well-chosen and defined goals. When the defined goals lack essential characteristics, this is the most common reason why the desired result is different from the intended one.
This is a pity because it is relatively easy to significantly increase the chances of success. Use the proven SMART format to formulate your goals. Each letter represents a characteristic that has a good goal.
Goals need focus, dreams don’t. Dreams can be free-floating thoughts. The goals must be formulated and specifically present.
What exactly do you want to achieve? The more precise your description, the higher the chance that you will get exactly that.
Questions you can ask yourself when setting your goals are:
Measurable goals mean that you determine exactly what you will see, hear and feel when you reach your goal. You have an idea that provides orientation. It means breaking your goal down into measurable elements. You need concrete evidence.
Some goals require a long journey. Then measurable criteria help to recognize progress.
It is very important to formulate your goals positively because what you concentrate on gets attention.
Is reaching your goal relevant to you? Why do you want to achieve this goal? What is the goal behind the goal, and will this goal make it possible?
While you can dream for free, goals do not come without a price. Time, money, effort, and sweat. How and what will you pay for your goals? Is your goal even achievable?
If you do not have sufficient resources such as time, money or talent to achieve a particular goal, you are likely to fail and be unhappy.
There is nothing wrong with reaching for the stars. That doesn’t mean you can’t take something that seems impossible and make it possible by planning wisely and tackling it. If you lack certain skills, you can plan the training. If you lack certain resources, you can look for ways to get them.
Goals have a finish line. Dreams never have to end. Dreams can go on forever. They don’t have to have an ending point. Goals must have a specific outcome.
Deadlines are what make most people switch to action. So install deadlines, for yourself and your team, and go after them. Keep the timeline realistic and flexible, that way you can keep morale high. Being too stringent on the timely aspect of your goal setting can have the perverse effect of making the learning path of achieving your goals and objectives into a hellish race against time – which is most likely not how you want to achieve anything. Too much pressure doesn’t lead to better results. Better: Milestones usually have a positive effect.
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Published: March 21, 2001
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Most people appreciate a good listener, but most prefer to speak for themselves rather than listen. Active listening can be easy, the article tells you how.
To listen closely and reply well is the highest perfection we are able to attain in the art of conversation.
François de La Rochefoucauld
Hearing more than talking – that’s what nature teaches us:
It gave us two ears, but only one tongue.
Gottfried Keller
Being a good listener can help you to see the world through the eyes of others. It enriches your understanding and expands your capacity for empathy. Listening increases your contact with the outside world by helping you improve your communication skills.
What do you think about the next saying?
You can win more friends with your ears than you can with your mouth.
Good listening skills can provide you with a deeper level of understanding about others and their situation. It helps you to choose your communication style. It tells you what words are best to use or which words to avoid.
Being a good listener does not come easy for some of us. Listening is not the same as hearing. It means being aware of both verbal and non-verbal messages. Your ability to listen effectively depends on the degree to which you perceive and understand these messages. And it massively depends on the ability to build rapport.
Most people appreciate a good listener. But in practice, most people prefer to speak for themselves rather than listen to others. It is probably not so easy for everyone to listen to other people. But it is worthwhile to pay honest attention to those you are talking to.
Active listening does not turn anyone into a passive person who patiently follows endless explanations without ever getting a chance to speak for himself. Active listening helps to improve communication in general and to make one’s messages heard. Genuine listening is the best way to gain trust and sympathy and to build relationships.
The art of conversation lies in listening, and here is how:
If the state of mind is too agitated, listening won’t work. So, first, make sure that they are mentally ready.
A large part of communication is non-verbal. Keep an eye on the body language of your interlocutor. While you are listening, your brain only needs a small part of its capacity. The rest is free to formulate an answer and listen better.
Especially less good and impatient listeners are often too busy to speak. And then it easily happens that the body language communicates something different from intended. There is a restless sliding back and forth on the chair, arms or legs crossed, clearing the throat. It is precisely the signals of impatience that do not encourage us to continue talking, but interrupt thoughts that otherwise take place.
You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time. It helps to put the smartphone aside, to turn it off quietly, to be completely attentive. Choosing a suitable environment also makes it easier for everyone involved to concentrate.
One of the most sincere forms of respect is listening to what another has to say. The interruption of the interlocutor or even the completion of his sentences is disrespectful.
It makes sense to ask reflective questions, not only to check whether you have understood everything correctly. Asking questions helps to formulate questions and answers in a more targeted way. It is therefore worth asking questions in between.
Pay attention to the body language of your counterpart. Register micro gestures or other clues, such as nervous bouncing of the foot under the table. In some situations, you can even respond to your observations. If you do this cautiously, the person you are talking to will be more likely to open up, because they will feel taken seriously, and you will enjoy more trust.
With your eye contact, you signal interest and that you are with the thing.
Even experienced listeners run the risk of switching off as soon as their ideas and convictions are questioned or criticized. In this situation, cross-pollinating and formulating justifiable answers instead of listening misses information, insight, and the chance to defuse emerging conflicts.
Elegant paraphrasing is the perfect way to solve problems or make plans. Estimate what your conversation partner thinks or feels, and briefly summarize what has already been saying. Show empathy.
Take a break. For example, to absorb what has been said and think about it. You will appear more deliberate and give better answers later.
Who makes a short break before answers, makes it easier for the interlocutor to add something to his statement. Before each answer, count up to four in your head until you automatically take the breaks.
A good listener is interested in long-term and viable solutions, rather than quick effects that only flatter his ego. Avoid advice, especially unsolicited advice. Everything else is latently intrusive and as if you were a know-it-all.
If you make listening and observation of your occupation, you will gain much more than you can by talking. Listen longer than you talk. People who practice this are perceived as more intelligent and sympathetic.
One of the most interesting in communication is hearing what isn’t said.
As simple as listening may seem, doing it well, takes sincere effort and lots of practice. Do you want to be someone that others want to talk to? If you want to know how to be a good listener, learn more about it.
Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?
More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.
You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.
Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. Are you looking for professional support?
If you are interested in coaching, training, or consulting, for organizational questions and to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (It is up to you whether you enter personal data) or by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). Otherwise, you may reach me by telephone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 and mobile phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany, then. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will call you back as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.
Transparency is important. Therefore, you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees, and getting to know me. If this suits you, I look forward to working with you.
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Active listening is important when communicating because it ensures that you engage with the person you are talking to in a positive way. It also makes the other person feel heard and valued. This skill is the foundation for a successful conversation in any setting, whether at work, at home, or in social situations.
Active listening, as the name suggests, means active attention. It means concentrating fully on what is being said and not just passively listening to the speaker’s acoustic message. It requires paying attention with all the senses, focusing fully on the speaker, actively showing verbal and nonverbal signs of listening.
Active listening helps to build trust and understand other people’s situations and feelings. This, in turn, enables one to offer support and empathy. Unlike critical listening, active listening is about understanding, not responding. The goal is to listen and affirm the other person and inspire them to solve their problems.
There are many ways to improve your active listening. You can practice in coaching sessions, trainings and everyday situations.
We all need to know that we’re important in other people’s lives. We need to be noticed and valued — in private and business life. Why do I believe that it is so important to show appreciation? Because…
Better smart goals than unfulfilled wishes. Well defined goals for better self-management, more effective meetings, negotiations,… Life is much easier when agreements with ourselves and others are made more clearly and realistically.
What kind of people don’t let you finish your talk? In a good conversation, everyone has his part. Everyone can talk and let the other talk. But why are some people interrupted so often and what can be done about it? Here are some tips to reduce the likelihood to be interrupted while you speak.
Being a good listener can help you to see the world through the eyes of others. It enriches your understanding and expands your capacity for empathy. Listening increases your contact with the outside world by helping you improve your communication skills.
Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission. It sounds true, and it is true. And it is also not always right to hide behind that saying.
Tips for dealing with people who are overly in love with themselves, with narcissists. How to communicate and deal with narcissists without despair.
How do you actually affect people in conversations, speeches and presentations, in interviews? Professional feedback helps. What insights does an impact analysis offer you?
One should choose the simplest explanation of a phenomenon, the one that requires the fewest leaps of logic. The more complex something is, the easier we should explain it.
Not every attempt to manipulate us is obvious. Especially the professional manipulators learn how to hide their intentions. Unfortunately, there are a lot of those manipulators in business and private life. Learn how to recognize manipulators.
Ask better questions, and as a result, you get better answers. Questions are the best way to gain more perspectives and develop more innovative solutions. Here are some recommendations for better questions because they lead to insights, creativity, and excellent leadership.
If you expect something from a conversation, it pays off to prepare accordingly. With a good conversation, a lot can be achieved and investments are worthwhile. So far so good. Which effort exactly is worthwhile?
Narcissists are driven primarily by power, fame, and recognition. That’s not bad, right? If there weren’t so many people with narcissistic tendencies, there wouldn’t be many achievements and world records. However, we would not have to suffer from many disadvantages. As fascinating as narcissists may seem at first glance, they are in reality selfish and emotionally cold. Only their self-pity is boundless. Only the others make mistakes.
In the article, you will learn how to identify narcissists.
This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.
Published: Februar 2, 2016
Author: Karsten Noack
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How do you affect people in conversations, speeches, and presentations, in interviews? We all have our blind spots. It has a good reason, because for experts, company representatives and politicians, the impact analysis is part of the preparation of a speech, presentation, statement, interview or discussion. To explore the effect before the real event has a lot of advantages. How do you and your message affect your audience?
How do you interact with other people when you meet them? For example, how do you communicate in meetings and presentations? We communicate constantly. Yes, you too! And even if you do not intend to. Whether we want it or not; much of what we do or do not do is perceived and interpreted by others. Your messages are not always understood as you want them to be.
For experts, many professional company spokespersons, company representatives, and politicians, the impact analysis is part of the preparation of a performance, such as speeches, presentations, statements, interviews, discussions. So you can explore the effect even before the performance in front of an audience. This will tell you in advance how you and your message will be perceived.
The more influential your position in a company is, the more you are under observation. Then every moment becomes an appearance in front of an audience. Every detail gets meaning. Whether in the media, at events, and even in seemingly private situations; every word that is said and omitted can be interpreted. Every detail shapes the image that the public has in mind about you and your message.
I will give you a useful picture of how you are perceived in public. This is particularly beneficial for executives and representatives of companies, associations, and political parties.
Just a few thoughtless words in front of the audience, microphone, and camera can have consequences. For this reason, it is worthwhile to prepare carefully for important situations. For many professional company spokespersons, company representatives, and politicians, the impact analysis is part of the preparation.
Even many experienced speakers are not so experienced when it comes to media appearances. It does not belong to everyday life for everyone. To master such situations you need to be sovereign in front of the camera and studio situations, provocative journalist questions, and vehement attacks of an opponent in a debate or podium discussion.
Better safe than sorry. Afterward, we are often smarter, but then it is a bit too late. Better: An impact analysis provides a speaker with professional feedback before the actual event. Get feedback before the critics get their turn. Why should you take unnecessary risks? Why should you give up a successful performance? Prepare for crucial situations. Rehearse. Get feedback for it. This allows you to experience the impact beforehand and to optimize it if necessary.
How are you perceived, and what can you improve to convincingly present yourself and your message?
Based on your impact analysis, you receive recommendations that help you to optimize your appearance. If you wish, you will receive targeted support for your sovereignty, charisma, and self-marketing for speeches and media appearances. I support you from the impact analysis, optimization up to the dress rehearsal, or even the accompaniment to the performance. You decide!
The impact analysis can be booked individually for 60 minutes or is the beginning of more comprehensive support for the preparation of an event. This is also possible with sessions via telephone or with video support.
You decide how extensive the analysis is. Many factors affect how you are perceived. Here are examples:
A brief meeting is enough to get your first feedback on how you affect other people. You will learn from me immediately a lot about your verbal and body language effect, as well as ways to improve.
In addition to the direct analysis, various sources can be consulted; Recordings of interviews, TV appearances, speeches, social media, etc.
Qualitative interviews with relevant target groups are used to analyze interesting aspects.
Then you will receive your personal and honest impact analysis. The whole truth or perception of your person!
With this feedback and recommendations, you’ll have what you need to know when you choose to balance expectations with you and your demeanor to reach and convince your audience.
Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. Are you looking for professional support?
If you are interested in coaching, training, or consulting, for organizational questions and to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (It is up to you whether you enter personal data) or by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). Otherwise, you may reach me by telephone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 and mobile phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany, then. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will call you back as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.
Transparency is important. Therefore, you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees, and getting to know me. If this suits you, I look forward to working with you.
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Do you believe your vision is too huge and long term? Stay with it, because when we take action in the right direction we truly experience life.
This guide provides step-by-step instructions on how to craft a compelling personal vision. There are a few essential steps if you want to design a powerful vision. And how about a vision board?
Almost every successful leader had a mentor. What is important to keep in mind, what makes a good mentor? Learn how a mentor can support you.
Dreaming is a good starting point for a challenging journey. But dreaming isn’t enough without actions. Wishful thinking is hoping for something and waiting for someone else to make it happen. Be a hero, because we need a lot of them!
This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.
Published: June 27, 2009
Author: Karsten Noack
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Do you believe your vision is too huge and long term? Stay with it, because when we take action in the right direction we truly experience life.
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” said Alice.
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where—” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland
You believe what you have to offer – your vision – it’s good for the world, but you fear it is too huge and not possible to achieve shortly? How sure are you? Would you invest and develop the idea if there were a clear path to success?
Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it,
and I shall move the world.
Archimedes
Have courage. The truth is life is not always simple and easy. Maybe there is a reason for this. We are given difficulties in life to make us stronger. As our challenges increase, we grow stronger to face them.
Once we have begun the steps to improve our lives, we can help others to overcome their barriers and take action. Humans often resist moving or making relevant changes because of the fear of the unknown. How about a coach to join you on your journey?
When we take action in the right direction, we truly experience life.
Once we have begun the steps to improve our lives, we can help others to overcome the barriers to taking action. Humans often resist moving or making relevant changes because of the fear of the unknown. How about a coach to join you on your journey?
When we take action in the right direction, we truly experience life.
Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. Are you looking for professional support?
If you are interested in coaching, training, or consulting, for organizational questions and to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (It is up to you whether you enter personal data) or by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). Otherwise, you may reach me by telephone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 and mobile phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany, then. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will call you back as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.
Transparency is important. Therefore, you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees, and getting to know me. If this suits you, I look forward to working with you.
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This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.
Published: June 21, 2008
Author: Karsten Noack
Revision: August 22nd, 2022
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This guide provides step-by-step instructions on how to craft a compelling personal vision. There are a few essential steps if you want to design a powerful vision. And how about a vision board?
When there is no vision, the people perish.
King Solomon
The older we get, the faster time seems to pass. Before we know it, the ambitions, hopes, and dreams of our youth become absorbed and forgotten in the background of life. Forgotten dreams … until one day we reflect and wonder if we should have done things differently. Questions pop up like: Did I choose the right path? Is it too late to be what I wanted to be?
Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.
I want to encourage you that, no matter how old you are or what you’ve been through, follow your destiny and purpose that will satisfy you. What is life without fulfillment?
So what is your vision?
If you don’t have a vision, it’s time for you to get one!
A vision doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be just about anything.
Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight – envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. The best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. If it is right for you, it will resonate with your values and ideals and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to exploring the possibilities of your life.
A vision is like any journey – you need to begin with the end in mind. When you’ve created your vision, imagine what it will feel like when you achieve it. What does that result mean to you and others? Describe the scenario in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture, a scenario. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel.
Many people have trouble seeing the potential of their dreams; they give up on them because they don’t see how they will ever come true. Yes, there is a difference between a dream, a vision, and goals. To make your vision comes true, you have to do something. Otherwise, they are only dreams.
Vision goes hand in hand with committed action. Visions are always based on giving and creating, not on getting and having. The journey toward our plans, goals, and visions is just as important as the destination itself. The journey is what builds our patience, faith, endurance, and self-discipline – our personality.
Sometimes we can’t see the wood for the trees, but you are equipped with gifts and talents to achieve our visions. The dreams that you have are there for a reason: to be realized as a part of fulfilling your life purpose.
As your journey begins, make decisions that are in alignment with your vision. This may not always be easy, you may become abundantly aware of how things are in contrast to the vision you’ve created.
Choose and improve your strategy, wisely. Vision and strategy are both important. But there is a priority to them. Vision always comes first. Always! If you have a clear vision, you will eventually attract the right strategy. If you don’t have a clear vision, no strategy will save you.
Goals quantify and define the steps you must take. They are the signposts that let you know you are moving in the right direction. I recommend using a special format for your goals; the SMART-Format for well-formed goals. It helps you ensure that the goal you are setting is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.
Describe the present situation and compare it with the desired future goal.
Make sure that your goal works for you in all areas of your life.
A vision board is typically a poster board on which you paste or collage images that you’ve torn out from various magazines.
A vision board intends to program your subconscious mind. When you surround yourself with images of who you want to become, what you want to gain, where and how you want to live, or where you want to go on vacation, your subconscious mind wants to match those images and those desires.
Organize a big stack of different magazines, poster board, and glue.
Let yourself have fun looking through magazines and pulling out pictures or words or headlines that you like.
Examine the images and begin to lay your favorites on the board. Put away any images that no longer feel right. While you lay the pictures on the board, you’ll get a sense of how the board should be laid out. Find your way, how to organize your vision board.
Glue the images onto the board.
Choose a place for your vision board where you will see it often.
Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. Are you looking for professional support?
If you are interested in coaching, training, or consulting, for organizational questions and to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (It is up to you whether you enter personal data) or by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). Otherwise, you may reach me by telephone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 and mobile phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany, then. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will call you back as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.
Transparency is important. Therefore, you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees, and getting to know me. If this suits you, I look forward to working with you.
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This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.
Published: March 7, 2002
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Almost every successful leader had a mentor. What is important to keep in mind, what makes a good mentor? Learn how a mentor can support you.
What I need is someone who will make me do what I can.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
A mentor is a trustworthy consultant, a clever, loyal and supportive companion, a consultant, trainer or coach. Ideally, a mentor is also a role model and confidant. He has gained relevant practical experience.
This is usually a kind of sponsorship between a young, promising executive (the mentee) and an experienced manager (the mentor). For this working relationship to work, there must be complete trust between the partners involved. Also, the mentee must be willing to accept suggestions and deal constructively with feedback. Mentors also point out risks and potentials if they want to promote their protégés. And do you also have a mentor?
You benefit from a mentor because he or she can provide you with the experience of many years within a short period. Mentees learn what the mentor has experienced and done and how it worked for him. This saves you detours, time and effort because you can learn from his mistakes and successes and do not have to make unnecessary mistakes.
Typical functions of a mentor:
That sounds too good to be true? Almost every successful personality had a mentor who played an important role.
Almost every successful executive can refer to a mentor who has played an important role. There are many examples of how important a mentor can be. The term “mentor” comes from The Odyssey. Odysseus asked his friend Mentor to watch over his son Telemachus while Odysseus was in the Trojan War. Mentorship existed long before Socrates cared for Plato, who cared for Aristotle, who cared for Alexander the Great.
I greatly appreciate the experienced support. If I hadn’t had mentors, I wouldn’t be here today. The guidance I have received from experienced men and women has made an enormous positive difference in my life. Intelligence is learning from experience and I don’t have to make every mistake myself. Others have encountered problems, made mistakes and learned from them.
Search for role models you can look up to and people who are interested in you. If we just take the time to ask them, they often like to share what they have learned.
In mentoring, the immediate supervisor is indirectly involved. Although she or he can make suggestions to the employee on how best to use the mentoring experience, the supervisor has no connection to the mentor, and they do not communicate at all during the mentoring relationship. This helps maintain the integrity of the mentoring relationship.
Mentoring programs have been popular for some time and differ from classical coaching.
Coaching and training are more task-oriented. The focus is on concrete topics such as more effective management, targeted and effective communication and strategic thinking. This requires an expert who can teach the coachee how to develop these skills.
A coach can work successfully with a coachee for a short time, perhaps only for a few sessions. Coaching lasts as long as necessary, depending on the purpose of the coaching relationship.
Business coaching aims to improve an individual’s performance in the workplace. The aim is either to improve existing skills or to acquire new skills. Once the coachee has successfully acquired the skills, the coach is no longer needed.
Coaching can be done on nearly any topic almost immediately. When a company tries to coach a large group of individuals, there is certainly a lot of design involved in determining the competence field, the expertise required and the assessment tools used, but this does not necessarily require a long lead time to implement the coaching program.
The superior of the coachee can be a critical partner in coaching. He or she often gives the coach feedback on areas where his or her employee needs coaching. The coach, on the other hand, does not reveal any details from the coaching.
Mentoring is more relationship-oriented. It aims to create a safe environment in which the mentor shares all the issues that affect his or her professional and personal success. Although specific learning goals or competencies can be used as a basis for building the relationship, the focus goes beyond these areas and includes things like work and life balance, self-confidence, self-awareness and how personal life affects the job.
Mentoring takes time to succeed. It takes time for both partners to learn from each other and create a climate of trust that creates an environment in which the mentee feels safe to share the real problems that affect his or her success. Successful mentoring relationships often last from nine months to one year.
The goal of mentoring is to support the individual not only for the current job but also for the future. This also distinguishes the role of the immediate superior from that of the mentor.
Mentoring requires a preparatory phase to determine the strategic purpose of mentoring, the form and focus of the relationship, collaboration, and specific components.
What all types of coaching and mentoring have in common is that they provide a tool for analysis, reflection, and action that makes it possible to be successful in a field.
Here you will find further examples of the application of coaching.
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This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.
Published: June 21, 2001
Author: Karsten Noack
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Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different mindsets. It is time to realize your plans. Dreaming is a good starting point for a challenging journey. But it isn’t enough without action. Be a hero, because we need a lot of them!
You are stronger than you may know.
Karsten Noack
Dreaming is a good starting point for a challenging journey. Wishful thinking and voluntary daydreaming can occasionally make dreams come true. Unrealistic projects, improbable ventures, and unfeasible missions can sometimes be achieved through conscious dreaming. At times, dreams can be an inspiration and generate creative reflections. But dreaming isn’t enough when no action follows. Wishful thinking is hoping for something and waiting for someone else to make it happen.
There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.
Douglas Everett
Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different mindsets. Dreamers are drifters, just floating through life with no real plans. One who has a dream is a door on the path towards achieving their goal.
Failure is not the opposite of success, inaction is. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. Today! Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.
Choice of action over wishful thinking. Action separates the heroes from the cowards, the achievers from the complainers, the successful from the mere dreamers, the happy from the envious. Actions separate those who rise to the challenge of their goals from the passive ones. So many are stuck in wishful thinking and hide behind excuses instead of speaking up and doing something to make the world a better place. Everyone needs something to aim for. It doesn’t matter if you call it chaos he or a goal. It makes us human, it helps us to realize our true self. We grow with our tasks and challenges.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.
Henry David Thoreau
Are you a mere dreamer, a wishful thinker, or a hero? It is your decision! Make a positive difference. And just as a reminder: Your values are your WHY, your actions are you HOW and your goal is your WHAT. Be a hero, because we need a lot of them!
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This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.
Published: March 17, 2006
Author: Karsten Noack
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