12 typical goal setting mistakesMany of us limit ourselves to small dreams. Make sure your goals support a fulfilling life
The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.
Many of us limit ourselves to small dreams. One reason may be that we believe that bigger dreams are beyond our reach. And – because our unconscious takes that as an order – what we get isn’t the most fulfilling result.
12 typical goals setting mistakes
1. Setting unrealistic high objectives
A total lack of realism isn’t helpful. Yes, make it big and also make sure your ambitious goals are achievable. Do you know the qualities of smart goal setting? Let me remind you:
To make sure your goals are clear and reachable, each one should be smart. Here are the questions to do that.:
- Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
- What do I want to accomplish?
Think about exactly what you are trying to accomplish and don’t be afraid to get very detailed.
- Why is this goal important?
- Who is involved?
Consider who needs to be involved to achieve the goal.
- Where is it located?
- Which resources or limits are involved?
Determine any related obstacles or requirements. This question can also be beneficial in deciding if your goal is realistic.
- What do I want to accomplish?
- Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
- How much?
- How many?
- How will I know when it is accomplished?
- Achievable (agreed, attainable).
- How can I accomplish this goal?
- How realistic is the goal, based on other constraints, such as financial factors?
- Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
- Does this seem worthwhile?
- Is this the right time?
- Does this match our other efforts/needs?
- Am I the right person to reach this goal?
- Is it applicable in the current socio-economic environment?
- Time-bound (time-based, time-limited, time and cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).
- What can I do six months from now?
- What can I do six weeks from now?
- What can I do today?
2. Too many goals
As long as you are not omnipotent, you have a limited amount of time and energy. That is human. Too many goals, too few results. If you try to focus on too many goals at once, you can’t give individual goals the attention they deserve. Go for quality, not quantity. Set priorities: By focusing on a few things that matter, you’ll use your resources more efficiently.
3. Focusing on too few areas
Many areas are important for a fulfilling life. Focusing only on your career isn’t enough. Too many people focus solely on their work when they set goals. However, you can’t neglect activities that bring you joy. When you set your goals, make sure that you strike the right balance between the spheres of your life.
4. Underestimating completion time
If you don’t give yourself enough time to achieve your goals, you may end up frustrated and give up. make sure your goal has a chance of succeeding in the planed period.
5. Not appreciating temporary failure as feedback
Failure can motivate us to act as much as success can, as long we appreciate it as feedback and move on.
6. Following a path that isn’t ours
Other people like family, friends or even your boss may want to influence the goals you set. Perhaps they believe that they know what’s best for you, or maybe they want you to take a certain path or do certain things for other reasons. Your goals need to be your own – not anybody else’s.
7. Being too vague
Goals which are vague do little to inspire or motivate. They have to be specific to offer orientation and to energize us.
8. Setting goals beyond your influence
You are responsible for your life and your actions. That is what lies within your control. Setting goals which are dependent on others put your success in the hands of others. Your goals should focus on what you can control.
9. Only knowing what we don’t want
It isn’t enough to know what we don’t want. Make your goals sound positive and attractive. Negative goals are emotionally unattractive, which makes it hard to focus on them. Reframe any negative goal so that it sounds positive. You may be surprised by the difference this makes.
10. Not reviewing the process
It takes time to accomplish goals. And sometimes it can feel that you aren’t making much progress. Don’t be afraid to change your goals if your priorities change.
11. Conflict with our identity and purpose
Our goals must be consistent with the persons we want to be; our values, and the way in which we want to serve the world. Your values are those things in your life that mean something for you. Knowing your values enables you to think clearly about your decisions, what really counts.
12. The goals are too small
Goals that lead to results that don’t lead to a fulfilling life.