Narcissists as Co-Founders of a Start-Up

Narcissists can make compelling co-founders. Their charisma, confidence, and willingness to take risks can attract investors and inspire teams. However, behind the facade of charm and determination, there lies a potential for significant dysfunction. Dealing with a narcissistic co-founder is one of the most challenging experiences a start-up team can face. These individuals can turn promising ventures into chaotic, unsustainable environments if their behavior goes unchecked.

This article is for start-up founders who find themselves dealing with such personalities. It aims to highlight the potential benefits of a narcissistic co-founder while also clearly addressing the very real dangers involved. Whether you are at the beginning of a partnership or already struggling with a toxic dynamic, this guide will help you recognize signs of trouble and provide strategies to navigate these challenges effectively.

Overview

• Narcissists as co-founders of a start-up
• Well-meant recommendations
• But …
• Narcissists in start-ups
• Determination and risk-taking
• Risks
• Look very thoroughly
• Who is responsible?
• When it happened
• What you can do
• Contact Me for More Information
• Related Articles
• P.S.
• Comments

Narcissists as Co-Founders of a Start-Up

Many start-ups fail for various reasons, but one of the most challenging and frustrating causes of failure is the incompatibility between co-founders. Even if the business idea is promising, conflicts between founders can derail the entire venture. A successful team should ideally complement each other’s strengths, but that isn’t always the case, especially when difficult personalities are involved.

This article is aimed at start-up founders who are struggling with a narcissistic co-founder and need guidance on how to effectively navigate these challenges. Narcissistic personalities in leadership roles can be particularly problematic. On one hand, their charisma and determination can provide momentum for the company; on the other, their inability to accept feedback and collaborate can be disastrous. This article explores the complexities of having a narcissist as a co-founder and offers practical strategies to navigate such a scenario.

The Double-Edged Sword: Advantages and Risks of Narcissists in Start-Ups

Advantages: Charisma and Determination

Narcissists can be captivating, particularly in the early stages of a start-up. They possess the charisma to inspire others and have an unmatched drive to succeed. Grandiose narcissists, in particular, thrive in challenging environments and can push a venture forward with sheer force of will. They create buzz, attract investors, and often make an impressive first impression. If the goal is to move quickly and make a splash, narcissistic personalities can appear to be an asset.

Narcissists have a disproportionate representation in leadership positions. Their desire for power and their willingness to do whatever it takes to impress key stakeholders gives them an edge—at least initially. They bring determination and risk-taking to the table, which can help propel innovations and encourage the team to break boundaries.

Risks: Lack of Authentic Relationships and Limited Vision

However, their inability to form genuine, trusting relationships often becomes their downfall. The lack of self-reflection and unwillingness to accept feedback limits their vision, which ultimately harms the company. Narcissists’ overestimation of themselves and disregard for social dynamics often lead to poor decision-making. Over time, the negative impacts become too great to ignore, often ruining team cohesion and company culture.

While their strengths can initially be advantageous, these same traits can backfire. When trust deteriorates and relationships become strained, narcissistic behaviors can significantly damage a company. Awareness of the potential risks is essential for anyone entering a partnership with a narcissistic co-founder.

The Challenges of Narcissistic Co-Founders

The Facade of Charisma

In the beginning, narcissists are often able to sell themselves as an asset to the team. They disguise their true selves to make a good impression for as long as it suits them. Once their guard drops, the damage they cause increases over time. Typically, those who could intervene—such as investors or advisors—are too blinded by the narcissist’s early self-promotion and promises.

By the time the true character of a narcissist is revealed, it is often too late, and the damage is significant. Investors, business angels, and other stakeholders may find their contributions wasted or even exploited. Narcissists often resent any pressure placed on them and can become vindictive if they feel coerced into action.

The Emotional Toll

The challenges of dealing with a narcissistic co-founder go beyond business strategy—they also impact emotional well-being. Narcissists can create an environment that leaves team members feeling undervalued, manipulated, and exhausted. It’s important to acknowledge this emotional toll and take proactive measures to manage it.

Prevention: Recognizing Narcissistic Tendencies Early

Early Warning Signs

Narcissistic co-founders often exhibit certain tell-tale signs early on. They may dominate conversations, dismiss other people’s ideas, and constantly seek validation. Recognizing these red flags early can help prevent larger issues down the road. Look for behaviors like:

• Constant Need for Praise:
  They frequently seek validation and thrive on admiration.
• Dismissiveness:
  They tend to disregard others’ ideas without much thought.
• Unwillingness to Share Credit:
  They take credit for successes but shift blame for failures.

Establishing Ground Rules

If you suspect narcissistic tendencies from the outset, set clear boundaries and ground rules early on. Define decision-making processes and insist on shared accountability. Preventative measures are always easier than trying to manage full-blown conflicts later.

How to Handle a Narcissistic Co-Founder

If you suspect that your co-founder may be a narcissist and you cannot simply exit the situation, you need to proceed very carefully. Here are some strategies to help you manage this challenging dynamic:

1. Develop Clear Goals and Strategy

Create a deliberate strategy for your start-up that takes into account the challenges of working with a narcissistic personality. You need a plan that includes short-term and long-term goals and anticipates potential conflicts. Narcissistic personalities rarely become easier to work with over time; instead, their behavior often becomes more problematic.

2. Minimize Unintended Friction

Adjust your approach to avoid unnecessary friction. Keep your interactions as frictionless as possible while still curbing destructive behaviors. This balance is challenging but necessary to maintain some control over the relationship.

3. Communicate Carefully

Prepare for each important conversation thoroughly. Narcissists are often unpredictable in how they interpret messages, and even minor missteps can lead to significant fallout. Tailor your communication carefully, always keeping in mind that narcissists tend to interpret even neutral feedback as a personal attack.

4. Stay Balanced

Dealing with a narcissistic co-founder can be exhausting. It’s important to keep your nerve and maintain a constructive mindset throughout. The techniques you learn will only work if you stay in a balanced emotional state. This means taking care of your own well-being and avoiding getting pulled into unnecessary drama.

5. Seek Support

The earlier you seek external support, the better. Prevention is far easier than damage control. Narcissists are notoriously vindictive, so having professional support is crucial. While legal and financial matters should be handled by the appropriate experts, interpersonal and communication issues are best managed with professional coaching or counseling.

Practical Tips for Working with Narcissists

If you are dealing with a narcissist in a leadership position, here are a few additional practical steps you can take:

• Set Boundaries:
  Establish clear boundaries early on, and enforce them consistently.
• Document Everything:
  Keep written records of important decisions and agreements. Narcissists may attempt to rewrite history, and having documentation will protect you.
• Stay Objective:
  Try not to engage emotionally with the narcissist’s tactics. Keep conversations focused on facts and avoid being drawn into unnecessary arguments.
• Avoid Direct Confrontation:
  Narcissists are highly sensitive to perceived criticism. Whenever possible, provide feedback indirectly to reduce the likelihood of retaliation.

Final Thoughts

Navigating a start-up with a narcissistic co-founder is challenging, but it can be done with careful planning and strategic communication. By understanding their strengths and weaknesses, you can use their determination to benefit the company while mitigating the damage caused by their more destructive traits.

Remember, the sooner you recognize narcissistic tendencies and take action, the better you can protect yourself and the company. Seeking external support and maintaining a balanced approach is key to managing these relationships effectively. If you need assistance, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional guidance. The stakes are too high to go it alone.

Take Action: If you recognize any of these signs and feel overwhelmed, don’t wait until the situation becomes unmanageable. Reach out to a professional for a consultation and develop a strategy that ensures the health and success of your start-up and personal well-being.

May these insights help you better understand what is happening with narcissists and what to expect. This way, decisions can be made on a more informed foundation.

What is your opinion on this? What experiences do you have with narcissists and other toxic contemporaries?

Your perspective, tips, and other respectful comments are welcome. Let’s share our thoughts, support each other, and encourage one another.

Karsten Noack — Let’s take a few steps together – and take good care of ourselves and those we have at heart.

Compassionate Support for Those Affected by Narcissists

(Note: This is not legal advice—consult a legal professional for legal issues.)

Understanding the Challenge

Dealing with narcissistic individuals can lead to intense emotional pain, confusion, and exhaustion. I understand that many of you are facing an overwhelming situation, feeling isolated and unsure where to turn. My goal is to provide you with clear, compassionate support to help you regain control and navigate through this challenging time.

Immediate Support and Appointment Options

If you need urgent help, I strive to be available at short notice, often even on the same day. This is possible thanks to immediate bank transfer options. A 60-minute phone call is typically sufficient to address urgent concerns, provide support, and create clarity. You have several options for appointments:

• In-person meetings: Available in Berlin.
• Phone consultations: Flexible and convenient.
• Video sessions: Internet-based video conferencing for a face-to-face experience.

If you are looking for guidance in making decisions, communicating effectively, or managing emotional distress due to narcissistic relationships, I am here to arrange a session that suits your needs.

Booking an Appointment

Due to the high volume of requests, my volunteer assistance must remain limited. However, I am committed to providing professional support—whether you need therapeutic help or coaching (excluding legal advice).

Appointments can be booked:

• In person in Berlin.
• Via telephone or video conferencing.

For your convenience, sessions can be arranged quickly thanks to real-time bank transfers. You may schedule an appointment first or, for even faster service, book directly. Once the fee is received, we will find the next available slot to suit your schedule.

Therapeutic Support and Reduced Fees

If you are experiencing the psychological effects of narcissistic abuse, I offer specialized therapeutic support. My goal is to help you overcome the confusion and pain caused by narcissistic relationships. Additionally, reduced rates are available specifically for therapeutic assistance related to narcissistic abuse, as I recognize the burden these experiences can place on your well-being.

Financial Limitations and Alternative Support

I understand that not everyone has the financial means to afford professional support. In such cases, I invite you to use the comment section as a platform to connect and share experiences with others facing similar challenges. I occasionally provide responses there, offering guidance that may help you move forward.

To further assist, I offer a free initial consultation by phone on the first Monday of each month, from 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM. This is my way of giving back and helping those in need of immediate guidance. To access this free service, please call +49 (0)30 864 213 65. Note that calls outside these hours or to other phone numbers will be handled exclusively as part of professional support.

Questions and Private Concerns

For questions that could benefit others, feel free to ask in the comment section. Sharing these questions helps others understand that they are not alone and provides collective insights. For more private matters, I am available for professional support.

To arrange an appointment, discuss support options, or address organizational questions, please reach out via email at mail@karstennoack.com or better please use the contact form.

A Final Note

Thank you for your understanding regarding my procedures and the limitations I face due to the high volume of requests. Your courage in seeking support is commendable, and I am here to provide guidance, compassion, and clarity on your journey.

Contact Me for More Information

If you have specific questions or want to know more about how I can help, just ask me directly. For questions that might interest others, please feel free to post them in the comments section below.

Looking for Professional Support?

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Understanding Narcissistic Lying

Narcissistic behavior is complex and often rooted in deep-seated insecurities and a fragile self-image. Narcissists compensate for low self-esteem by exaggerating their self-portrayals, seeking admiration and attention. This need can become overwhelming, leading to fabricated stories designed to make them appear more impressive. Frequently, they devalue others to feel superior, sometimes even fabricating faults where none exist. Such behavior is not necessarily about malice but rather about fulfilling their need for validation, even at the expense of honesty.

Why Do Narcissists Lie So Blatantly?

Understanding Narcissistic Lying

Narcissistic behavior is complex, often rooted in deep-seated insecurities and a fragile self-image. Narcissists seek to compensate for low self-esteem through exaggerated self-portrayals, hoping to gain admiration and attention. This need can become overwhelming, leading to the creation of stories that make them appear more impressive. Often, they devalue others to appear superior, staging faults where none exist to achieve this. This behavior is less about malice and more about fulfilling their need for validation, even at the expense of honesty.

Note

This article is not intended to diagnose narcissistic personality disorder but rather to help readers recognize manipulative behavior. For simplicity, I refer to individuals with narcissistic tendencies—whether women or men—as “narcissists” in this article.

Self-Interest Above All Else

For narcissists, other people are often seen as objects—a means to an end. They feel entitled to exploit others to serve their own needs. Lies become a tool for crafting a false image, whether in professional settings, personal relationships, or social circles. Unfortunately, those who fall for this illusion often realize too late what the consequences are, finding themselves entrapped in a manipulative web.

Narcissists are adept at making their victims lose the ability to make confident, appropriate decisions. Often, targets become involved without recognizing the dangers, and by the time the deception becomes clear, they are already deeply entangled. Narcissists weave their lies with just enough truth to maintain control over others.

Gaslighting as a Manipulative Tool

One of the primary manipulative tactics used by narcissists is gaslighting—misrepresenting reality to make the victim question their own perceptions. Lies are used selectively, or information is withheld, to extend control over others, creating confusion and self-doubt. Claims of love or value, if offered, are typically manipulative rather than genuine expressions of emotion. Narcissists lack genuine empathy, which allows them to exploit others without remorse.

Lack of Empathy and Emotional Disconnect

The ease with which narcissists lie is largely due to their lack of genuine empathy. They may lack emotional depth, which makes them less likely to feel shame or guilt. This emotional disconnection allows them to lie convincingly, without flinching even when directly confronted. Often, they deflect accountability by denying their lies, making excuses, or projecting their own behaviors onto others. Displays of empathy, if they occur, are used strategically to manipulate rather than from a place of genuine feeling.

Eliciting Sympathy Through Deception

Another common manipulation tactic is feigning victimhood. Narcissists lie to evoke sympathy from others, presenting themselves as victims of cruelty, often fabricating stories of illness, accidents, or the wrongdoings of others. This portrayal distracts from their own actions, engendering misplaced empathy and drawing support from those around them. By framing themselves as the victim, narcissists deflect blame and continue their manipulative behavior.

Chronic Pathological Lying

Narcissists often lie habitually, displaying cunning and resourcefulness in their deceptions. They may lie about their own achievements, past relationships, and even their feelings to win trust. When the deception is eventually exposed, their behavior may escalate, often involving further lies directed at discrediting the person who discovered the truth. Narcissists lie to control not only their victims but also the perception of those around them.

Confronting Narcissistic Behavior

Confronting narcissistic lies is challenging. Rather than showing remorse, narcissists may double down on their behavior, often responding with further deception or attempts to discredit those who expose them. Attempts to clarify the truth are met with resistance, making confrontation an uphill battle.

How Can You Protect Yourself?

The best approach is early recognition and boundary setting. Educate yourself on narcissistic behavior and be mindful of the red flags. Learn to protect yourself emotionally by setting clear boundaries and seeking external support when needed. Consider professional guidance, such as therapy, if you find yourself entangled in a manipulative relationship. Staying vigilant is key to avoiding getting caught in a web of deceit.

A Balanced Perspective

It is important to note that not all individuals with narcissistic traits are inherently malicious. Narcissistic tendencies often arise from deep-seated fears and insecurities. By understanding the root causes of their behavior, we can better recognize it while also maintaining compassion—especially for those who are willing to seek help and grow. However, your safety and well-being are the priority, and establishing distance from toxic behaviors is crucial when necessary.

Compassionate Support for Those Affected by Narcissists

(Note: This is not legal advice—consult a legal professional for legal issues.)

Understanding the Challenge

Dealing with narcissistic individuals can lead to intense emotional pain, confusion, and exhaustion. I understand that many of you are facing an overwhelming situation, feeling isolated and unsure where to turn. My goal is to provide you with clear, compassionate support to help you regain control and navigate through this challenging time.

Immediate Support and Appointment Options

If you need urgent help, I strive to be available at short notice, often even on the same day. This is possible thanks to immediate bank transfer options. A 60-minute phone call is typically sufficient to address urgent concerns, provide support, and create clarity. You have several options for appointments:

• In-person meetings: Available in Berlin.
• Phone consultations: Flexible and convenient.
• Video sessions: Internet-based video conferencing for a face-to-face experience.

If you are looking for guidance in making decisions, communicating effectively, or managing emotional distress due to narcissistic relationships, I am here to arrange a session that suits your needs.

Booking an Appointment

Due to the high volume of requests, my volunteer assistance must remain limited. However, I am committed to providing professional support—whether you need therapeutic help or coaching (excluding legal advice).

Appointments can be booked:

• In person in Berlin.
• Via telephone or video conferencing.

For your convenience, sessions can be arranged quickly thanks to real-time bank transfers. You may schedule an appointment first or, for even faster service, book directly. Once the fee is received, we will find the next available slot to suit your schedule.

Therapeutic Support and Reduced Fees

If you are experiencing the psychological effects of narcissistic abuse, I offer specialized therapeutic support. My goal is to help you overcome the confusion and pain caused by narcissistic relationships. Additionally, reduced rates are available specifically for therapeutic assistance related to narcissistic abuse, as I recognize the burden these experiences can place on your well-being.

Financial Limitations and Alternative Support

I understand that not everyone has the financial means to afford professional support. In such cases, I invite you to use the comment section as a platform to connect and share experiences with others facing similar challenges. I occasionally provide responses there, offering guidance that may help you move forward.

To further assist, I offer a free initial consultation by phone on the first Monday of each month, from 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM. This is my way of giving back and helping those in need of immediate guidance. To access this free service, please call +49 (0)30 864 213 65. Note that calls outside these hours or to other phone numbers will be handled exclusively as part of professional support.

Questions and Private Concerns

For questions that could benefit others, feel free to ask in the comment section. Sharing these questions helps others understand that they are not alone and provides collective insights. For more private matters, I am available for professional support.

To arrange an appointment, discuss support options, or address organizational questions, please reach out via email at mail@karstennoack.com or better please use the contact form.

A Final Note

Thank you for your understanding regarding my procedures and the limitations I face due to the high volume of requests. Your courage in seeking support is commendable, and I am here to provide guidance, compassion, and clarity on your journey.

Contact Me for More Information

If you have specific questions or want to know more about how I can help, just ask me directly. For questions that might interest others, please feel free to post them in the comments section below.

Looking for Professional Support?

If you're interested in coaching, training, or consulting, have organizational questions, or would like to schedule an appointment, the best way to reach me is through this contact form (where you can choose whether to provide your personal data) or by email at mail@karstennoack.com. You can find the privacy policy here.

Transparency and Frequently Asked Questions

Transparency is important to me. To help you get started, I've provided answers to frequently asked questions about myself (profile), the services I offer, fees, and the process of getting to know me. If you like what you see, I'd be delighted to work with you.

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Related Articles

• Psychotherapy
• 30 tips for communicating with narcissists. Dealing with narcissists. Too much is too much!
• 17 signs that someone is a manipulator
• Stop it, I hate that: Recognize the 11 most common manipulation techniques
• Professional impact analysis: How are you perceived by other people?

P.S.

Why do narcissists lie so blatantly and so often?​?

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Author: Karsten Noack
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Setting boundaries for toxic people

What to do when toxic people cross boundaries? Here are suggestions you can use to set clear boundaries for such contemporaries.

Overview

• Setting boundaries for toxic people
• Why set boundaries?
• Learning to set boundaries
• Who are toxic people?
• Common characteristics of toxic people
• 10 tips: What to do when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries?
• Contact Me for More Information
• Related Articles
• P.S.
• Comments

Setting boundaries for toxic people

It is usually not easy to set boundaries with toxic people, but it is all the more necessary. Boundaries are part of taking care of ourselves. When we set clear boundaries early on, we are less likely to be angry and resentful because our needs are taken care of. Boundaries make our expectations clear, so others know what to expect from us and how we want to be treated. Boundaries are one of the foundations of functioning relationships – professional and personal.

Why set boundaries?

Ideally, people respect our boundaries if we communicate them enough. However, some people resist our efforts to set boundaries; they argue, blame, ignore, manipulate, threaten, or hurt us emotionally or physically. And while we can’t stop people from acting this way, we can learn to set clear boundaries and take care of ourselves.

Learning to set boundaries

Setting boundaries consists of three steps.

1st step 1

Identify your boundaries. Be clear about what you require before you go about communicating or enforcing the boundary.

2nd step

Communicate your boundaries or expectations, calmly, and consistently. Stick to the facts without over-explaining, blaming, or getting defensive.

3rd step

If your boundaries are not respected, review your options and take consistent action.

Focus

This post focuses on the third step; what we can do when our boundaries are not respected.

Who are toxic people?

Toxic people are people who are destructive and make us feel worse when we are around them. Gut feelings usually indicate pretty quickly if someone is toxic, and it is better to keep your distance.

Common characteristics of toxic people

Common among toxic people is that they …

• regularly lie and manipulate to get what they want. Intriguing, starting rumors, gossiping; toxic people will use any means to
• achieve their own goals, push through opinions, and gain an advantage.
• exploit their kindness
• not respecting your boundaries
• belittle you and other people
• do not encourage you to pursue your goals
• poison the environment
• have no regard for other people’s feelings or needs
• are often angry or aggressive
• rarely apologize
• blame others and do not take responsibility for their actions
• use up their energy
• have a lot of problems but do not want to change
• think that rules do not apply to them
• talk a lot but do not listen
• are not interested in solutions in the sense of win-win.

10 tips: What to do when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries?

Setting boundaries is an ongoing process and there is no quick fix for dealing with people who cross boundaries. We can hardly force someone to respect our boundaries, but we can decide how to respond.

The following ideas can help you choose the best approach for dealing with chronic boundary violators.

1. Clarify

Address the behavior to provide an opportunity for clarification. Make it clear what you are concerned about. This has a limited effect on toxic people, but sometimes we are wrong about people ourselves.

2. Consequences

Make clear announcements. Say which behavior has which consequences. Only state what you are prepared to do and stick consistently to your announcements.

3. Condition management

As hard as it may be, don’t take the behavior too personally. Toxic people live out their deficits. They are unable and unwilling to align themselves with proven interpersonal standards.

If you pay attention to your state management, it will not only be more pleasant but also more helpful. Then you will make better decisions more confidently. Those who are out of sorts are easier to manipulate and weaker.

4. Negotiate

Decide if a boundary is negotiable. Some boundaries are more important than others. Figuring out what you are willing to accept and what you consider unacceptable or non-negotiable will help you decide if you are willing to compromise. Compromise can be a good thing if both people adjust. True compromise does not mean giving up your needs to please someone else or accepting treatment that you consider non-negotiable.

8. Delimitation

Practice benevolent demarcation. Delimitation is an alternative to trying to control people and situations. When you are in a state of anxiety, it is understandable that you want to control things to protect yourself. But trying to control other people does not work. When we break free of it, we stop trying to change others and force the outcome we want. You can detach from a narcissistic or toxic person by…

• leaving physically dangerous or unpleasant situations.
• responding differently than before. For example, instead of taking something personally or yelling, we can meet a rude comment with humor. This changes the dynamic of the interaction.
• decline invitations to spend time with such contemporaries.
• let them make their own decisions and deal with the consequences of those decisions.
• maintain restraint and do not give unsolicited advice.
• consciously avoid participating in the same old arguments or staying out of an unproductive conversation or argument.
• take care of yourself. Setting yourself apart doesn’t mean you don’t care about the person, but rather that you take care of yourself and realistically assess what you can do in a given situation.
• limit or stop contact. Consider limiting contact or having no contact at all. Sometimes the only way to protect yourself is to stop interacting with toxic people who don’t respect you.
• limiting or completely cutting off contact is not meant to punish or manipulate others, it is a form of self-care. If someone hurts you physically or emotionally, you owe it to yourself to put enough distance between you and that person. Despite what others may say, you don’t have to have a relationship with people who make you feel bad. Family and friends should lift you and support you, not leave you depressed, anxious, angry, or confused.

9. You have a choice

One of the great things about being an adult is that you can make your own decisions. You don’t have to continue to be friends with someone who takes advantage of your kindness or work for someone who criticizes and belittles you nonstop or stay in a relationship with someone who is not good for you.

We have choices. Sometimes we don’t particularly like an option, but it’s important to know that we have them. We are not trapped or powerless.

The decision to end relationships is often painful. Even in abusive relationships, it is not always easy. For practical reasons, it is very often delayed too long. Whether it’s a personal or business relationship, workplace, or any other context; don’t let it go. Life is too short and precious for some time.

10. Act

Although deep inside it has already arrived that it is unhealthy to continue a contact as before, the necessary step is not taken. If this is the case, you can …

Identify your options, such as distancing yourself physically and emotionally, limiting contact, avoiding meeting a toxic person directly, and practicing self-care.
Choose the best option, even if none of them is ideal. Be careful to respect yourself and your values. Trust your instincts.

Simple answers?

Unfortunately, there is usually no easy answer. At times, other people will be unhappy and even angry or offended by your choices. Still, it’s better to set the framework. This may mean not tolerating toxic people in your life any longer. Boundaries are a way to protect yourself from harm and preserve your autonomy and individuality. You deserve to allow yourself to do that.

Compassionate Support for Those Affected by Narcissists

(Note: This is not legal advice—consult a legal professional for legal issues.)

Understanding the Challenge

Dealing with narcissistic individuals can lead to intense emotional pain, confusion, and exhaustion. I understand that many of you are facing an overwhelming situation, feeling isolated and unsure where to turn. My goal is to provide you with clear, compassionate support to help you regain control and navigate through this challenging time.

Immediate Support and Appointment Options

If you need urgent help, I strive to be available at short notice, often even on the same day. This is possible thanks to immediate bank transfer options. A 60-minute phone call is typically sufficient to address urgent concerns, provide support, and create clarity. You have several options for appointments:

• In-person meetings: Available in Berlin.
• Phone consultations: Flexible and convenient.
• Video sessions: Internet-based video conferencing for a face-to-face experience.

If you are looking for guidance in making decisions, communicating effectively, or managing emotional distress due to narcissistic relationships, I am here to arrange a session that suits your needs.

Booking an Appointment

Due to the high volume of requests, my volunteer assistance must remain limited. However, I am committed to providing professional support—whether you need therapeutic help or coaching (excluding legal advice).

Appointments can be booked:

• In person in Berlin.
• Via telephone or video conferencing.

For your convenience, sessions can be arranged quickly thanks to real-time bank transfers. You may schedule an appointment first or, for even faster service, book directly. Once the fee is received, we will find the next available slot to suit your schedule.

Therapeutic Support and Reduced Fees

If you are experiencing the psychological effects of narcissistic abuse, I offer specialized therapeutic support. My goal is to help you overcome the confusion and pain caused by narcissistic relationships. Additionally, reduced rates are available specifically for therapeutic assistance related to narcissistic abuse, as I recognize the burden these experiences can place on your well-being.

Financial Limitations and Alternative Support

I understand that not everyone has the financial means to afford professional support. In such cases, I invite you to use the comment section as a platform to connect and share experiences with others facing similar challenges. I occasionally provide responses there, offering guidance that may help you move forward.

To further assist, I offer a free initial consultation by phone on the first Monday of each month, from 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM. This is my way of giving back and helping those in need of immediate guidance. To access this free service, please call +49 (0)30 864 213 65. Note that calls outside these hours or to other phone numbers will be handled exclusively as part of professional support.

Questions and Private Concerns

For questions that could benefit others, feel free to ask in the comment section. Sharing these questions helps others understand that they are not alone and provides collective insights. For more private matters, I am available for professional support.

To arrange an appointment, discuss support options, or address organizational questions, please reach out via email at mail@karstennoack.com or better please use the contact form.

A Final Note

Thank you for your understanding regarding my procedures and the limitations I face due to the high volume of requests. Your courage in seeking support is commendable, and I am here to provide guidance, compassion, and clarity on your journey.

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This article is a short excerpt from the more comprehensive course materials my clients receive in a group or individual training or coaching.

Published: May 20, 2020
Author: Karsten Noack
Revision: November 19th, 2024
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