12 typical goal-setting mistakes and how to avoid them

12 Typical Goal-Setting Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Make sure your goals support a fulfilling life. Do you limit yourself because you don't dream big enough?
Ambition And Goal Setting. 12 typical goal setting mistakes. Make sure your goals support a fulfilling life

Common goal-setting mistake

 

Some goal-setting mistakes can get in the way of achieving your biggest dreams. Learn how to set better goals by overcoming common goal-setting mistakes.

Overview

The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.

Michelangelo

Think big, avoid goal-setting mistakes

 

Many of us limit ourselves to small dreams. One reason may be that we believe that bigger dreams are beyond our range. And – because our subconscious takes that as a mandate – what we get isn’t the most fulfilling result.

 

 

 

15 typical goals setting mistakes

 

 

1. Setting unrealistically high objectives

 

A total lack of realism is not helpful. Yes, make it big. But also make sure that your ambitious goals are achievable. Do you know the qualities of smart goals? Let me remind you.

To make sure your goals are clear and reachable, each one should be smart. Here are the questions to do that.:

  • Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
    • What do I want to accomplish?
      Think about exactly what you are trying to accomplish, and don’t be afraid to get very detailed.
    • Why is this goal important?
    • Who is involved?
      Consider who needs to be involved to achieve the goal.
    • Where is it located?
    • Which resources or limits are involved?
      Determine any related obstacles or requirements. This question can also be beneficial in deciding if your goal is realistic.
  • Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
    • How much?
    • How many?
    • How will I know when it is accomplished?
  • Achievable (agreed, attainable).
    • How can I accomplish this goal?
    • How realistic is the goal, based on other constraints, such as financial factors?
  • Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
    • Does this seem worthwhile?
    • Is this the right time?
    • Does this match our other efforts/needs?
    • Am I the right person to reach this goal?
    • Is it applicable in the current socio-economic environment?
  • Time-bound (time-based, time-limited, time and cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).
    • When?
    • What can I do six months from now?
    • What can I do six weeks from now?
    • What can I do today?

 

 

 

2. Too many goals

 

Quality over quantity is important when you’re setting goals. As long as you are not omnipotent, you have limited time and energy at your disposal. That is the case with us humans. It’s common to get excited about goal setting and in the midst of it set so many goals. You only have so much time to accomplish your goals, so choose wisely. Too many goals tend to reduce good results. If you try to focus on too many goals at the same time, you cannot give individual goals the attention they deserve.

Focus on quality, not quantity. Set priorities: By focusing on a few important goals, you will use your resources more efficiently.

 

 

 

3. Focusing on too few areas

 

Many areas are important for a fulfilling life. Focusing only on your career isn’t enough. Too many people focus solely on their work when they set goals. However, activities that give pleasure should not be neglected. When you set your goals, make sure you find the right balance between the areas of your life.

 

 

 

4. Underestimating the time of completion

 

If you don’t give yourself enough time to achieve your goals, you may end up frustrated and give up. make sure your goal has a chance of succeeding in the planned period.

 

 

 

5. Not appreciating temporary failure as feedback

 

Failure, like success, can motivate us to continue and act if we value it as feedback and continue.

 

 

 

6. Following a path that isn’t ours

 

Other people like family, friends or even your boss may want to influence the goals you set. Maybe they think they know what’s best for you, or maybe they want you to go a certain way or do certain things for other reasons. Your goals must be your own – not those of anyone else.

 

 

 

7. Being too vague

 

Vague goals do little to inspire or motivate. They must be specific to provide orientation and motivate us.

 

 

 

8. Setting goals beyond your influence

 

You are responsible for your life and your actions. That is what lies within your control. Setting goals that depend on others put your success in the hands of others. Your goals should focus on what you can control.

 

 

 

9. Only knowing what we don’t want

 

It isn’t enough to know what we don’t want. Make your goals sound positive and attractive. Negative goals are emotionally unattractive, which makes it hard to focus on them. Realign any negative goal to sound positive. You will be surprised at the difference that makes.

 

 

 

10. Not reviewing the process

 

It takes time to achieve goals. And sometimes it can feel like you’re not making much progress. Don’t be afraid to change your goals when your priorities change.

 

 

 

11. Conflict with our identity and purpose

 

Our goals need to match the individual we want to be, our values and the way we want to serve the world. Your values are the most important factors in your life that mean something to you. Knowing your values allows you to think clearly about your choices and what matters.

 

 

 

12. The goals are too small

 

Think big when setting your goals. There are often a lot of single goals that lead to a big goal. But some goals are too small. It requires the right size of goals that lead to results leading to a fulfilled life.

 

 

 

13. Not knowing your why

 

Having goals without knowing why you have them is going to leave you unfulfilled even after you accomplish them. Instead of setting random goals, focus on why they are significant to you.

What is your purpose in life or in the area you’re setting goals? What is your motivation for setting those goals? How about your priorities? Once you know your why, you’ll be able to accomplish your goals and enjoy a fulfilling life.

 

 

 

14. Not having your goals in written form

 

You may have a perfect memory. Anyway: It’s so important that you write down your goals. I see so often what happens when people don’t do it. It doesn’t matter where you write it down, as long as you do it.

Writing down your goals is an indicator of your likelihood to achieve your goals.

 

 

 

15. Not thinking long term

 

Setting goals based on your daily tasks and what you need to accomplish in the immediate future without thinking about the long-term, limits your possibilities.

Coaching for decisions

 

Decisions have to be made over and over again - small and large. Some are easy, some are difficult. We make many of these decisions without having to think much about them or even completely unconsciously, automatically. But now and then we come to the point where we encounter a decision where we pause, don't know what to do, don't see clearly. Often these are decisions of great importance that also have the ability to question important aspects of life that were previously considered given or untouchable. Such a situation can create pressure and even lead to paralysis, so that creative and constructive ways remain unconsidered.

Who sees clearly, can decide better and act purposefully. In order for this to succeed, it is necessary to ensure that the options are identified and, if necessary, increased and priorities clarified. Decision coaching helps to oversee the forest for the trees and to find the right focus. The best decision and creativity techniques can be used most effectively in a good mental state.

In order to make your decision easier, to be supported by me, I focus on transparency. On these pages you will find information about me (Karsten Noack) and the fees.

Just ask me personally

 

Please post any questions that may interest other readers in the comments. Are you looking for professional support?

If you are interested in coaching, training, or consulting, for organizational questions and to make an appointment, you can reach me best by e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). You can reach me by telephone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 and mobile phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany, then. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will call you back as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.

Transparency is important. Therefore you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees, and getting to know me. If this suits you, I look forward to working with you.

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Are you a hero or a mere dreamer? Start doing and stop dreaming.

Are You A Hero Or A Mere Dreamer?

Dreaming isn't enough without action
Are You A Hero Or A Mere Dreamer?

Hero or dreamer?

 

Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different mindsets. It is time to realize your plans. Dreaming is a good starting point for a challenging journey. But it isn’t enough without action. Be a hero, because we need a lot of them!

Walk your talk

 

Dreaming is a good starting point for a challenging journey.  Wishful thinking and voluntary daydreaming can occasionally make dreams come true. Unrealistic projects, improbable ventures, and unfeasible missions can sometimes be achieved through conscious dreaming. At times, dreams can be an inspiration and generate creative reflections. But dreaming isn’t enough when no action follows. Wishful thinking is hoping for something and waiting for someone else to make it happen.

 

 

 

Start doing and stop dreaming

 

There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.

Douglas Everett

 

 

Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different mindsets. Dreamers are drifters, just floating through life with no real plans. One who has a dream is a door on the path towards achieving their goal.

Failure is not the opposite of success, inaction is. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. Today! Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.

 

 

 

 

A dreamer may become a hero

 

Choice of action over wishful thinking. Action separates the heroes from the cowards, the achievers from the complainers, the successful from the mere dreamers, the happy from the envious. Actions separate those who rise to the challenge of their goals from the passive ones. So many are stuck in wishful thinking and hide behind excuses instead of speaking up and doing something to make the world a better place. Everyone needs something to aim for. It doesn’t matter if you call it chaos he or a goal. It makes us human, it helps us to realize our true self. We grow with our tasks and challenges.

 

 

 

How about you?

 

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.

Henry David Thoreau

 

Are you a mere dreamer, a wishful thinker, or a hero? It is your decision! Make a positive difference. And just as a reminder: Your values are your WHY, your actions are you HOW and your goal is your WHAT. Be a hero, because we need a lot of them!

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Using values as the driving force for good decision-making. Do you know your values?

Using values as the driving force for good decision-making. Do you know your values?

It’s easier to make good decisions when you know what your values are
Using Values as the Driving Force for Decision Making

Personal values ​​and decisions

 

Personal values ​​are very important. Values ​​are fundamental beliefs and attitudes about life. They are the basis for many decisions and actions. By becoming more aware of your values, you can use them as a guide to making the best choice in any situation.

Values are important because life is full of decisions

 

Yes, life is full of possibilities. Where you go, what you do and who you become are the result of the daily decisions you make.

Values are what we are all about. Therefore, values should be the driving force for our decisions. They should be the basis for the time and effort we spend thinking about decisions. But this is usually not the case. It is not even close to what it is. Instead, decision-making usually focuses on the choice of alternatives.

It is a common experience to look at an upcoming decision the way most people see a problem, and are influenced by the available alternatives. The decision-making process, therefore, begins when at least two alternatives are available. I guess that happens in almost all decision-making situations, but it shouldn’t be like that. It should be possible to decide on a better base.

 

 

 

 

Personal values

 

Personal values, in the sense of these pages, are the basic beliefs and attitudes about life. They are the motivation for decisions and actions. The values are a level in the pyramid of neurological levels according to Robert Dilts (external link).

There are personal values (kindness, trust, etc.), spiritual values (intelligence), religious values (beliefs), moral values (behavior), and material values (money, power, possessions, etc.). Some values, such as the value of respect for property, can be used to derive social norms as concrete rules for social action, such as laws prohibiting theft. Values are a central component of many behavioral codes.

 

 

 

 

Know your values

 

In my work, I underline the role that your values have in decision-making. Your values are fundamental to making decisions, instead of only looking at the alternatives to decide the best outcome. Ask yourself why do you feel you need to choose an alternative option instead of letting things play out and see what happens?

The consequences of choosing alternative options may contradict the true values that are important to you and therefore this requires attention. The reason you are interested in deciding on any situation is the desire to avoid undesirable situations and achieve good opportunities. In any decision process, the alternatives are the means to achieving the more fundamental values you want.

When you define your values, you discover what’s truly important to you. A good way of starting to do this is to look back at your life − to identify when you felt wonderful and confident that you were making good choices.

Identifying and understanding your values is a challenging and important task. Your values are a central element of who you are and who you want to be. By becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, you can use them as a guide to making the best choice in any situation.

Some of life’s decisions are really about determining what you value most. When many options seem reasonable, it’s helpful and comforting to rely on your values and use them as a strong guiding force to point you in the right direction.

List with values

  • Accountability
  • Accuracy
  • Achievement
  • Adventurousness
  • Altruism
  • Ambition
  • Assertiveness
  • Balance
  • Being the best
  • Belonging
  • Boldness
  • Calmness
  • Carefulness
  • Challenge
  • Cheerfulness
  • Clear-mindedness
  • Commitment
  • Community
  • Compassion
  • Competitiveness
  • Consistency
  • Contentment
  • Continuous Improvement
  • Contribution
  • Control
  • Cooperation
  • Correctness
  • Courtesy
  • Creativity
  • Curiosity
  • Decisiveness
  • Democraticness
  • Dependability
  • Determination
  • Devoutness
  • Diligence
  • Discipline
  • Discretion
  • Diversity
  • Dynamism
  • Economy
  • Effectiveness
  • Efficiency
  • Elegance
  • Empathy
  • Enjoyment
  • Enthusiasm
  • Equality
  • Excellence
  • Excitement
  • Expertise
  • Exploration
  • Expressiveness
  • Fairness
  • Faith
  • Family-orientedness
  • Fidelity
  • Fitness
  • Fluency
  • Focus
  • Freedom
  • Fun
  • Generosity
  • Goodness
  • Grace
  • Growth
  • Happiness
  • Hard Work
  • Health
  • Helping Society
  • Holiness
  • Honesty
  • Honor
  • Humility
  • Independence
  • Ingenuity
  • Inner Harmony
  • Inquisitiveness
  • Insightfulness
  • Intelligence
  • Intellectual Status
  • Intuition
  • Joy
  • Justice
  • Leadership
  • Legacy
  • Love
  • Loyalty
  • Making a difference
  • Mastery
  • Merit
  • Obedience
  • Openness
  • Order
  • Originality
  • Patriotism
  • Perfection
  • Piety
  • Positivity
  • Practicality
  • Preparedness
  • Professionalism
  • Prudence
  • Quality-orientation
  • Reliability
  • Resourcefulness
  • Restraint
  • Results-oriented
  • Rigor
  • Security
  • Self-actualization
  • Self-control
  • Selflessness
  • Self-reliance
  • Sensitivity
  • Serenity
  • Service
  • Shrewdness
  • Simplicity
  • Soundness
  • Speed
  • Spontaneity
  • Stability
  • Strategic
  • Strength
  • Structure
  • Success
  • Support
  • Teamwork
  • Temperance
  • Thankfulness
  • Thoroughness
  • Thoughtfulness
  • Timeliness
  • Tolerance
  • Traditionalism
  • Trustworthiness
  • Truth-seeking
  • Understanding
  • Uniqueness
  • Unity
  • Usefulness
  • Vision
  • Vitality

 

 

 

What’s that good for?

 

This list of values ​​serves as a guide. The list contains some synonyms and is not complete. Do you know more values? Then you can use the comment field and I will complete the list.

For example, this list of values ​​helps you to get a clearer view of what’s important to you personally. You could print out this page, highlight the values ​​that feel best for you, and sort them by importance. As you go through the list, it may be that some values ​​are of little or no importance to you, and some may even be considered negative. Take a closer look and dedicate the values ​​that magically attract you. Then you know your priorities.

Focus on what is important for yourself

 

In short, we should spend more of our decision-making time concentrating on what is important: articulating and understanding our values and using these values to select meaningful decisions to ponder, to create better alternatives than those already identified, and to evaluate more carefully the desirability of the alternatives.

Using values as the driving force for your decision-making.

Coaching for decisions

 

Decisions have to be made over and over again - small and large. Some are easy, some are difficult. We make many of these decisions without having to think much about them or even completely unconsciously, automatically. But now and then we come to the point where we encounter a decision where we pause, don't know what to do, don't see clearly. Often these are decisions of great importance that also have the ability to question important aspects of life that were previously considered given or untouchable. Such a situation can create pressure and even lead to paralysis, so that creative and constructive ways remain unconsidered.

Who sees clearly, can decide better and act purposefully. In order for this to succeed, it is necessary to ensure that the options are identified and, if necessary, increased and priorities clarified. Decision coaching helps to oversee the forest for the trees and to find the right focus. The best decision and creativity techniques can be used most effectively in a good mental state.

In order to make your decision easier, to be supported by me, I focus on transparency. On these pages you will find information about me (Karsten Noack) and the fees.

Just ask me personally

 

Please post any questions that may be of interest to other readers in the comments. Looking for professional help?

If you are interested in coaching, training or consulting, if you have organizational questions, or if you want to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (you can choose if you want to enter your personal data) or via e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). You can also reach me by phone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 or by cell phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will get back to you as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.

Transparency is important. That is why you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees and getting to know me. If you like what you see, I look forward to working with you.

 

 

 

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Are gut feelings short cuts to better decision-making?

Are Gut Feelings Short Cuts to Better Decision-Making?

Do you trust your experiences? How about your gut feeling?
How About Your Gut Feeling?

Are gut feelings shortcuts to better decision-making?

 

More and more evidence is being discovered that many of our most important decisions, such as which partner to marry, how to invest money, and so on, are not made by rational consciousness, but by the subconscious, also referred to as gut feeling. Can you trust your gut feeling?

Overview

There is more reason in your body than in your best wisdom.

Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus spoke Zarathustra

Gut feeling

 

We possess the capacity to feel, and thereby the ability to know things without consciously reasoning. The gut feeling is real, and we use it all the time. A gut feeling arises when your brain makes an instant connection between what’s happening in the present and a similar circumstance from your past.

There is no such thing as a purely logical decision. The brain uses a combination of logic and emotion when making decisions of any kind. That specific emotion, innate to us as humans, is called intuition. Intuition is about how quickly you can tap into your subconscious mind, where you archive all types of information that you don’t remember on a conscious level. This intuitive system is more hardwired into the human species than commonly understood. It is the automatic, mindless thought process that doesn’t require analysis or deep thinking.

 

 

 

Is it magic?

 

This kind of intuition isn’t magic; it’s unconscious reasoning. Our brains record all experiences; every meeting, client interaction, presentation, and personal decision. With every experience, the cache of information our brains have at their disposal grows. In general, any experience is a good experience, and the more we have of them, the more accurate our gut feelings become.

What your hunches tell you is often a better gauge of what will make you happy than an analytical spreadsheet could ever be.

On the other hand, always trusting your gut can get you into a lot of trouble. Sometimes it’s capable of screwing you over by causing you to believe you’re right when pretty much everyone else can see that you’re wrong.

 

 

 

Use your gut feeling as an indicator

 

Your gut feeling is way more than just a feeling. But it is clever to listen to it?

Gut or logical brain? It depends on the topic and the possible consequences. There is no such thing as a purely rational decision. The brain uses a combination of logic and emotion when making decisions of any kind. Use the news. I suggest that we listen to our gut feeling and use it as an indicator, but not a sole decision-maker.

 

 

 

Explore more than one perspective

 

Sound business decisions are based on facts, data analysis, trend spotting, or other complex calculations, and yes – a bit of intuition. But your instinct should be used as an indicator, not the basis for your decisions. In every business, there are variables and unique scenarios that make planning and analysis imperative; neglecting these factors could have serious implications.

Coaching for decisions

 

Decisions have to be made over and over again - small and large. Some are easy, some are difficult. We make many of these decisions without having to think much about them or even completely unconsciously, automatically. But now and then we come to the point where we encounter a decision where we pause, don't know what to do, don't see clearly. Often these are decisions of great importance that also have the ability to question important aspects of life that were previously considered given or untouchable. Such a situation can create pressure and even lead to paralysis, so that creative and constructive ways remain unconsidered.

Who sees clearly, can decide better and act purposefully. In order for this to succeed, it is necessary to ensure that the options are identified and, if necessary, increased and priorities clarified. Decision coaching helps to oversee the forest for the trees and to find the right focus. The best decision and creativity techniques can be used most effectively in a good mental state.

In order to make your decision easier, to be supported by me, I focus on transparency. On these pages you will find information about me (Karsten Noack) and the fees.

Just ask me personally

 

Please post any questions that may be of interest to other readers in the comments. Looking for professional help?

If you are interested in coaching, training or consulting, if you have organizational questions, or if you want to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (you can choose if you want to enter your personal data) or via e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). You can also reach me by phone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 or by cell phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will get back to you as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.

Transparency is important. That is why you will find answers to frequently asked questions already here, for example about me (profile), the services, the fees and getting to know me. If you like what you see, I look forward to working with you.

 

 

 

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Here is how to beat procrastination

Here is how to beat procrastination

Why not just do it? Why do we procrastinate and how can we change this?
Here Is How To Beat Procrastination

Procrastination

 

Do you procrastinate? How about a few ideas to …? Here are some recommendations to avoid procrastination.

Are you a procrastinator?

 

You would be surprised how many people around the world can lay claim to being a procrastinator – after all, don’t millions of people put off doing something until later on. While it is normal for people to procrastinate to some degree, it becomes a problem when it impedes normal functioning.

So what is it that you should be doing right now? Maybe writing your thesis or business plan? Doing some work on the computer, cleaning up? More often than not, we tend to occupy ourselves with other things than what we should be doing. We procrastinate. But why not just do it? Why do we procrastinate, and how can we change this?

 

 

 

We are all procrastinator

 

Let’s face it: we all procrastinate at times. The key is to not let it become a restricting habit.

It is true; some people like the thrill that they get from procrastinating, that addictive rush of excitement that comes only just meeting the deadline in time. The more aversive a task is to us, the more we’ll resist it, and the more likely we are to procrastinate. The more negative emotions we show toward a certain task, the more likely we are to procrastinate,

Others have found that by procrastinating, they can blame their poor results on a lack of time. This is used as self-protection against failure.

 

 

 

Here is how to beat procrastination

 

How to avoid procrastination? Does that sound like procrastinate procrastination? Why not? Here are some recommendations to avoid procrastination:

 

 

 

1. Do the most important and/or the toughest job first

 

Start with the most important or the toughest job where you get the most out of it. Many people tend to start with easier, unimportant, minor tasks. With tough tasks, this sometimes leads to a kind of mental block and negative feelings related to the job. That is one of the main reasons why people procrastinate. They put off facing the tough tasks, thinking it might miraculously disappear. But once you have finished the toughest job, you’ll feel relieved and only have little easy tasks to do.

 

 

2. Set a date and time frame

 

Experience shows that any task will fill the time frame allotted to it. A concept called Parkinson’s Law explains this well: Work expands to fill the time available for its completion. That is why it is so important to set a date to do it and a time frame in which to complete the task.

 

 

3. Start

 

You’ll feel relieved and most likely satisfied with accomplishing something.

 

 

4. Be aware

 

A good way to begin the quest for identifying the problems provoking procrastination in your life is to carry a small notebook with you. When something doesn’t get done as scheduled, take a moment to write down the reason in your notebook. This will help you to improve your time management skills.

 

 

5. Concentrate

 

Focus your undivided attention on one task at a time.

 

 

6. Plan in steps

 

When it comes to starting a task or project, people tend to procrastinate if they lack either a clear starting point or a logical sequence of steps to take. Map out a quick outline of what it will take and how much time is involved. Divide large tasks into smaller, manageable projects, step by step.

 

 

7. Know the priorities

 

To know what is important or urgent is easier to decide when you have the bigger picture in mind. What is your motivation?

 

 

8. Good decision-making

 

Procrastination becomes less likely on tasks that we openly and freely choose to undertake. If you are a naturally focused and driven person then you may not need these suggestions. The better you know your goals and what you want, the easier things can be for you.

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Many people consider discontentment to be the most important motivator. My observation: We are happier when we learn to accept ourselves as we truly are. And we stimulate personal development this way.

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Far from truth: Most people think they are very good at lie detecting

Far From Truth: Most People Think They Are Very Good At Lie Detecting

Most people think they are very good lie detectors but that is wishful thinking and so far from reality.
Far From Truth: Most People Think They Are Very Good At Lie Detecting

Humans as lie spotters

 

Most people think they are good lie detectors. That is wishful thinking and so far from reality. Learn, why this is risky for your decision-making.

Wishful thinking: Lies are rarely recognized

 

Most people think that they are very good lie detectors, but that is wishful thinking and so far from reality.

Some people are indeed lie detectors by nature, without special training. But these are rare exceptions. Of course, we are much better at telling lies than at recognizing them. We have much more practice in that. Without special training, most people, even those in professions where the uncovering of lies is critical, achieve a mediocre lie detection rate.

With specific knowledge and practice, people can achieve a pretty good lie detection rate. The more you train, the more accurate your lie detection skills will become. Especially, the observation of microexpressions needs a lot of time to improve. But you don’t want to practice it all the time. You need to know when to turn it on. This will make you more concentrated if you use these abilities.

 

 

 

With familiar people, it is particularly difficult to recognize lies

 

If we know a person well, we believe we will be able to see the treacherous signs. The truth is that lie detection is made more difficult because the natural attitude for humans is to believe the people they are emotionally close to.

Yes, most people believe that they can tell whether their partner, child, or close friend is lying to them. However, this is rarely the case because there are two main factors: Overconfidence and closeness. These two factors lead to a loss of objectivity that prevents a loved one from seeing otherwise obvious signs of deception.

 

 

 

Body language

 

What’s said can’t always be checked in lie detection. Much more critical is how things are said and how a person behaves in communication. The non-verbal cues of our body language say more than most of us realize. Relying only on what is said is inherently unreliable. Accurate lie recognition is based on a combination of what you are told and what you observe. Congruence plays a particularly important role here.

Assess your ability to recognize lies realistically. This can help you to make better decisions. Especially when your gut gives you a signal to stay alert. Don’t reject it!

Preparation of important conversations and negotiations

 

Communication can be very easy. But often it is not. Sometimes we say things and then later notice from the reaction of our conversation partners that they seem to have spoken to someone completely different. I didn't say that with the best will in the world. - Or did I say that after all?

More or less consciously, conversations are about convincing other people of something - be it a special offer, your personality, a perspective, or a necessity. If this doesn't happen fast enough and above all not exactly to the point and descriptively, the person we are talking to quickly loses interest, and we lose the hoped-for opportunity. — Conversation failed.

You can let me support you in the preparation of your conversations and negotiations (to be on the safe side: no legal advice!). Find out how you and your message are perceived (arguments, body language, language, voice, and much more). I will familiarize you with effective tools and communication strategies. Develop your psychological skills, learn to stay calm, act confidently, remain authentic, and finally convince.

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If you are interested in coaching, training or consulting, if you have organizational questions, or if you want to make an appointment, you can reach me best via this contact form (you can choose if you want to enter your personal data) or via e-mail (mail@karstennoack.com). You can also reach me by phone at +49(0)30 864 213 68 or by cell phone at +49(0)1577 704 53 56 from Monday to Thursday from 9:00 to 18:00. Most of the time I am in sessions, so please leave a message with your phone number in Germany. Please remember to be very specific about the reason for your call. I will get back to you as soon as possible. The privacy policy can be found here.

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What is a microexpression?

Micro expressions are a very brief, involuntary facial expressions humans make when experiencing an emotion. They usually last 0.5 to 4.0 seconds and cannot be faked

Can you read emotions from faces?

The brain is able to understand faces is similar across cultures, so we all can recognize basic emotions, such as happiness or sadness, when looking at other faces. We even perceive micro expressions, but we do not register them consciously. Therefore, we do not care for or trust our gut feelings. Instinctively, we receive a lot of information.

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Professional impact analysis: How are you perceived by other people?

How do you actually affect people in conversations, speeches and presentations, in interviews? Professional feedback helps. What insights does an impact analysis offer you?

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