12 typical goals setting mistakesMany of us limit ourselves to small dreams. Make sure your goals support a fulfilling life
The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.
Many of us limit ourselves to small dreams. One reason may be that we believe that bigger dreams are beyond our reach. And – because our unconscious takes that as an order – what we get isn’t the most fulfilling result.
12 typical goals setting mistakes
1. Setting unrealistic goals
A total lack of realism isn’t helpful. Yes, make it big and also make sure it is achievable. Didn’t you know the qualities of smart goal setting?
2. Too many goals
You have a fixed amount time and energy. If you try to focus on too many goals at once, you can’t give individual goals the attention they deserve. Go for quality, not quantity.
3. Focusing on too few areas
Many areas are important for a fulfilling life. Focusing only on your career isn’t enough. Too many people focus solely on their work when they set goals. However, you can’t neglect activities that bring you joy. When you set your goals, make sure that you strike the right balance between different areas of your life.
4. Underestimating completion time
If you don’t give yourself enough time to achieve your goals, you may end up frustrated and give up.
5. Not appreciating temporary failure as feedback
Failure can motivate us to action as much as success can, as long we appreciate it as feedback and move on.
6. Following a path that isn’t ours
Other people like family, friends or even your boss may want to influence the goals you set. Perhaps they believe that they know what’s best for you, or maybe they want you to take a certain path or do certain things. Your goals need to be your own – not anybody else’s.
7. Being too general
Goals which are general do little to inspire or motivate. They have to be specific to offer orientation and to energize us.
8. Setting goals which you do not control
You are responsible for your life and your actions. That is what lies within your control. Setting goals which are dependent on others put your success in the hands of others. Your goals should focus on what you can control.
9. Only knowing what we don’t want
It isn’t enough to know what we don’t want. Make your goals sound positive and attractive. Negative goals are emotionally unattractive, which makes it hard to focus on them. Reframe any negative goal so that it sound positive. You may be surprised by the difference this makes.
10. Not reviewing the process
It takes a time to accomplish goals. And sometimes it can feel that you aren’t making much progress. Don’t be afraid to change your goals if your priorities change.
11. Conflict with our identity and purpose
Our goals must be consistent with the persons we want to be; our values, and the way in which we want to serve the world.
12. The goals are too small
Goals that lead to results that don’t lead to a fulfilling life.