23+ ideas to stay in a good mood instead of getting angry about other peopleMotto of the day: Good mood is free and confuses the opponent!
Good mood is free and confuses the opponent!
Usually, ignorance is not a nice trait. But if we’re dealing with nasty people, we don’t have to make it that easy for them. Why should we let ourselves be forced to do something we don’t want? Why should we get angry just because other people like it?
In such cases, we can become a spoilsport and change the rules of the game.
A German proverb is: “Was kümmert es die Eiche, wenn ein Eber sich an ihr reibt?”. Translation: “What does the oak care if a boar rubs against it?” I think this proverb is very wise.
23+ ideas to stay in a good mental attitude instead of getting angry with other people.
In a spontaneous action, I have gathered here a few ideas on how to deal with anger:
1. Don’t deny that you’re angry
People who can recognize their anger as anger are less likely to resort to aggression or violence.
2. Practice self-reflection
If something about other people upsets me, maybe it has something to do with me. Self-reflection helps here. Those who know themselves well react more self-confidently and appropriately.
3. Take a deep breath
A deep breath is a good way to calm down when you’re angry. Slow breaths slow your heart rate. Stop, breathe, action. During the pause, there is time to think: Is there a simple solution to the problem?
4. Use tools
Tools, such as Mind Mapping, help to maintain an overview and to recognize the correlations, even with complex topics.
5. Beware of impulsive reactions
Spontaneous impulses are not always a good idea. For example: Never, never send an e-mail if you are furious.
6. Anchor for good mental states
Condition yourself with mental anchors for good states. In this way, you can activate constructive states when they are required.
7. What is the actual personal relevance?
Be confident with a smile… “To be angry is to avenge the mistakes of others in ourselves,” Alexander Pope said. Often no further thought is worthwhile if strangers behave differently than we imagine. Is the situation worth the effort?
8. Can you read minds?
Could it be a misunderstanding? If you are not a clairvoyant, questions will help clarify the situation.
9. Don’t take everything personally
Don’t take other people’s behavior so personally. Often their behavior has something to do with something completely different than the first glance would suggest. It probably has nothing to do with you.
10. Are you ashamed of other people?
They are not responsible for other people’s mistakes.
11. Practice compassion.
Doing something compassionate for someone else is incompatible with anger and aggression.
12. Physical exercise reduces stress.
Especially aerobic exercise, including brisk walking or jogging, can be a great way to handle anger.
13. Relaxation techniques
Some simple relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm angry feelings. If you practice one or more of these strategies often and thereby develop a routine, it will be easier to apply them when angry feelings occur.
14. Ask for support
How about coaching?
15. Distract yourself
Use ways to distract yourself from things you don’t want to think about.
17. Say NO
Say goodbye to being a people pleaser and learn how to confidently say no to someone without feeling bad about it.
Bring your thoughts on paper. Writing down thoughts can be very enlightening.
19. Sleep on it
This gives you time to find a reasonable and rational answer to the situation. Do not be afraid to tell the person who offended you that you need a day or two to think about the issue.
20. Practice constructive quick-wittedness
Do you sometimes have the right answer too late? Quick-wittedness is trainable!
It is intelligent to use constructive instead of destructive techniques for verbal attacks. Constructive techniques ensure that your situation improves and that relationships remain possible. Learn to react positively, cleverly and quickly to attacks and provocations instead of becoming angry. Thus you appear more sovereign and radiate more competence as well as self-confidence. Join training in constructive quick-wittedness.
Count from 1 to 10 or 100 if necessary. Thomas Jefferson famously said, “When angry, count 10, before you speak; if very angry, 100.”
22. Learn to forgive
Forgiveness can help you to stop ruminating, because negative thoughts repeat themselves again and again in your head, like in a horror movie scene.
23. Be creative
I select the motto of the day mostly because something about it appeals to me. Something attracts me or irritates me. It feels as if it could contain something and I want to get to the root of it. So I dedicate a motto to each day and let myself be surprised what it has to offer me.
Sometimes the reason for the choice clarifies itself only after a while. That's why the thoughts about the motto of the day are often not articles, but associations. They are thoughts transformed into words. They are spontaneous and I also publish them frequently while I am traveling. They, therefore, tend to appear in fragments. Feel invited to add your associations in the comments. Enrich the thoughts with your perspectives – to complete the picture.
How do you benefit best from the motto of the day?
Ask yourself constructive questions like the following and you will personally benefit from each motto of the day:
- What triggers the topic in you?
- Under what circumstances do you agree with the statement and when not?
- What is the significance of the statement for you?
- How can the motto of the day enrich your life?
- In what context could the statement be useful?
- Where and when do you want to remember it and how?
And what can I do if I disagree with a motto? There is often something personal to learn from quotations with which we disagree. Helpful questions in such a case are:
- What do you specifically disagree with?
- Do you think the statement is generally not helpful or only not suitable for you personally?
- Which aspect is worth taking a closer look at?