How Present Are You?Present yourself and your offer successfully
What does that mean: Presence and to be present?
What does it mean to be present? To be present is when a person enters a room and attracts the attention of other people. Some speaker does not even have to say a single word but the audience already feels something special is about to begin.
Being present in the moment is about listening to yourself and others, focusing on the now, being grateful, and learning from mistakes. It is also about slowing down to focus on the beauty that surrounds us each and every day. The act of being present is, in a sense, a meditation without meditating. The stillness here, though, comes from an action – breathing, attending, witnessing, releasing and breathing again. This simple cycle can profoundly change the way that we experience our world.
Strong personal impact and attraction
The secret of a strong personal impact and attraction lies in the ability to get attention for themselves and the offer – in an adequate natural way. It depends on appearance, eye contact, posture and body tension, tempo and tuning to the communication habits of our counterparts, whether we are seen and heard. The source of that comes from within us. Our thoughts – particularly the beliefs about ourselves and the world around us – have a huge impact. In the center of it are our core values. Being present has a lot to do with respect, which comes as an authentic expression. This is based on the certainty to be special, and – perhaps more importantly – of the appreciation of those present.
Being present has a lot in common with mindfulness. Jon Kabat-Zinn, who has written a number of fantastic books on mindfulness for adults, defines mindfulness as, “paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”
How present are you?
A fairly common theme of my clients in coaching is being present. While the term presence itself is initially almost never be heard, it is an important contributing factor for some issues. It usually begins with a feedback like the following.
Mr. or Mrs. Doe …
- is not a leader
- is too cautious
- has difficulties to lead groups
- does not have sufficient communication skills
- isn’t a role model
- conveys no natural respect
- is unconvinced
- hides his potentials
There is nicer feedback. But such a feedback is of high value when it receives attention and is not pushed aside immediately. These and similar responses can be interpreted as evidence that there is a lack of personal presence. Ignoring it doesn’t lead to a wishful outcome.
Is it as it is or can I do something about it?
Not everyone is born with a present personality. Some may need some support to become more present. For example, if someone believes in this person in the company, with a little luck this person will get the necessary support. The relevant skills are then conveyed. However, not everyone gets feedback and support. In that case, it needs self-reflection and personal efforts. But only a few people work on those potentials on their own. Most leave it like it is because they believe it is like it is. Presumably, this is something genetic! The truth is: No, it’s not and I’ll show you how to be more present. Without a mask, and from the inside out.
The lack of qualified Feedback
In particular, people in leading positions like CEOs, freelancers and self-employed find it more difficult to obtain such feedback and therefore to develop their potential. Use professional feedback in order to know more about yourself and to decide what you want to improve. Make sure your personality is in sync with your message.
Dreaming big is wonderful, sometimes just enjoying the present moment can be just as sweet. What does being present look like for you?