Decision Making: Get Set, Go!How to make good decisions? Techniques and coaching. Sorry, no legal advice!
Sometimes it’s the smallest words like yes and no that make us pause for thought the most.
All these questions, all these choices: do you continue to be employed or take the plunge into self-employment? Up the offer or specialize? Plan your life out or opt for adventure? Stay in bed or get up? Be outgoing or more introvert and shy? Hamburg or Saint Tropez? Pizza or Beluga-Caviar? Ask a personal coach for assistance with your decision-making or not? … Take a deep breath!
Please, can someone stop the clock?
Again and again, we are faced with important decisions: short-, medium- and long-term. Some of them we can answer immediately — almost gut instinctively — and once the decision is made you feel content and joyful, enthusiastic and you feel relaxed. Other decisions, however, rob us of our sleep. Too much depends on the correct choice. They distract us, concentration and quality of life suffer … and if we avoid them for too long, then suddenly someone else or other circumstances decides for us, which rarely leads to a desirable result.
No question about it- this is the best solution! — What I offer
If you want to stop repeating the same obsessive questions … over and over and over and over … and you’re not making any headway … then just ask me. Instead of giving you an answer, (even better) I support you in making the best choice by …
- finding and exploring your most important decision-making criteria like motives, values, and principles
- reviewing the factors that influence your decision
- reflecting on the opportunities and expectations in the light of your own needs
- exploring the possible scenarios through the advantages and disadvantages and opportunities, risks and consequences of your decision
- thoroughly checking whether a decision has to be made immediately or if it is perhaps more opportunistic to delay the decision-making or if there is another important decision with a higher priority that needs addressing first.
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What are you waiting for? Start today! Consider this: right now is always the best moment of your life. Being in the now makes it easier to handle anything, regret nothing, and love life and everyone and everything in it in all its wonderful, endearing imperfection. Nothing is overwhelming, insurmountable, or unforgivable when it is considered in moment-sized parcels. And yes: this moment is also the best to take action to live our values. “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” Theodore Roosevelt
Dreaming is a good starting point for a challenging journey. But dreaming isn’t enough without actions. Wishful thinking is hoping for something and waiting for someone else to make it happen. Be a hero, because we need a lot of them!
Taking actions will fulfill your dreams and wishes, not the most opulent prayers and blessings.
Self-marketing needs focus. You may have many strengths and talents. Don’t be tempted to focus on more than one or two, or you will dilute your message. Focus on your core message so that you are known for something that counts!
Be aware of the side effects of planning. We could miss being in the moment right now.
Integrity is an important part of a character. Integrity is a choice we make, and it’s a choice we must keep making, every moment of our lives. Develop and protect your integrity.
Listen to yourself. Inside of us we can find important questions and answers; what is really fulfilling for us, what are our values. Therefore the unconscious is a personal source no one should ignore. When you found answers you may want to do something with them. How about you? What do you do with your dreams? Do you take those who feel important for you and allow them to become smart goals? Wake Up!
For our personal development, we need something to aim at because goals motivate us to make the most of our skills and possibilities – our life. When we truly want to achieve something it leads us to offer the best performance. And it feels good because especially the challenging goals, the big picture, a vision bring us purpose and meaning.
In all cultures and at all times, humans have sought to make sense of their existence. Man’s search for meaning is a quest as ancient as the dawn of human consciousness. The ancient Greek thought and talked a lot about it.
A gut feeling arises when your brain makes an instant connection between what’s happening in the present and a similar circumstance from your past.
This kind of intuition isn’t magic; it’s unconscious reasoning. What your hunches tell you is often a better gauge of what will make you happy than an analytical spreadsheet could ever be.
Many of us limit ourselves to small dreams. One reason may be that we believe that bigger dreams are beyond our reach. And – because our unconscious takes that as an order – what we get isn’t the most fulfilling result.
Abundance is one of those things that many people desire. How about you?
It is such a cliche, but it is true: money cannot buy happiness. It can influence happiness since it can afford us necessities, a comfortable lifestyle, and opportunities that may increase our overall life satisfaction. But money, in itself, is not the abundance we seek.
When you think about it, all business activity really comes down to two simple things: Making decisions and executing on decisions. Your success depends on your ability to develop speed as a habit in both. I believe that speed, like exercise and eating healthy, can be habitual.
Do you think that impatience and laziness are sins? Or do you see the good intent?
Most people think they are very good lie detectors but that is wishful thinking and so far from reality.
It is true that some people are really born human lie detector without specific training. But those are rare exceptions. Naturally, we are far better at telling lies than detecting them. Without specific training, most people, including those from professions where detecting lies is crucial, achieve a mediocre lie-detection rate.
Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different mindsets. Dreamers are drifters just floating through life with no real plans. One who has a dream is a door on the path towards achieving their goal.
A fulfilled life isn’t about avoiding criticism. Criticism can be a good thing. It’s often said that whoever is going on his way and does not encounter criticism is probably going in the wrong direction. Time to get on the right track …
It’s better to have honest criticism than to give or receive false praise. At least you know where you stand!
Yes, life is full of choices. Where you go, what you do, and who you become are the result of daily decisions you make.
Values are what we care about. As such, values should be the driving force for our decision-making. They should be the basis for the time and effort we spend thinking about decisions. But this is not the way it is. It is not even close to the way it is. Instead, decision making usually focuses on the choices among alternatives.
Indeed, it is common to look at a decision problem and be influenced by the alternatives available. It seems as if the alternatives present themselves and the decision-making process begins when at least two alternatives are present. I think this occurs almost in all decision situations but it shouldn’t be like that. It should be possible to go about decision making in another way.
When you define your personal values, you discover what’s truly important to you. A good way of starting to do this is to look back on your life − to identify when you felt really good and really confident that you were making good choices.
Identifying and understanding your values is a challenging and important exercise. Your personal values are a central element of who you are and who you want to be. By becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, you can use them as a guide to make the best choice in any situation.
Some of the life’s decisions are really about determining what you value most. When many options seem reasonable, it’s helpful and comforting to rely on your personal values and use them as a strong guiding force to point you in the right direction.
Keeping promises and what is promised is twofold. Many promise mountains but deliver molehills.
Although Shakespeare said “a promise made is a debt unpaid,” what is left of this attitude in today‘s world? More widely used today is probably the notion; promises cost nothing. And what about empty promises?
In particular, the advertising industry depicts that no one is really bothered about empty promises.
Shakespeare was a marketing specialist. Keep that recommendation in mind when you define your target market. Don’t waste time marketing to people who won’t be interested, however.
The things you are doing today are either pushing you towards your desired future or away from it. How about your beliefs and values?
Do you know what it means to have a vision? Some people think that it’s their dream or a goal they have set for themselves. And while those are great starts, a vision is much more comprehensive.
You would be surprised how many people around the world can lay claim to being a procrastinator – after all, don’t millions of people put off doing something until later on. While it is normal for people to procrastinate to some degree, it becomes a problem when it impedes normal functioning.
You believe what you have to offer – your vision – it’s good for the world but you fear it is too huge and not possible to achieve in the near future? How sure are you? Would you invest and develop the idea if there were a clear path to success?
A big Vision animates, inspires, transforms purpose into action.
When problem-solving everyday issues become a tug-of-war over who’s right and who’s wrong, then settling even the smallest of discussions becomes a battle. Don’t ignore conflicts. Deal with them!
If you can dream it, you can do it.
The future depends on what you do today. Enjoy the present moment and do what is helpful to create create a future you like to participate.
You believe your offer – your vision – is good for the world, but too huge and long term? How sure are you? Would you follow the idea when there would be a way?
Most people do not really want freedom because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility. Many really honest and respectful people let those more intrusive people persuade the masses. Even though they know better, they hold back with their opinion and their offers. It is not only important for them to speak up but for all. This leads to many disadvantages because we never hear the thoughts of those who don’t speak up. This is sad and it is also irresponsible. With the words of Moliere: It is not only for what we do that we are held responsible, but also for what we do not do.
Speech is power!
In this world you have to have values to stand up for. Do it! Stand up! Speak up! Public speaking skills are even more important than ever before.
Do you have a positive szenario about the future? I wonder what kind of szenario you have in mind when you think about your future.
The human capacity for self-deception knows no bounds. We just repeat the same kinds of mistakes over and over. But can we prevent ourselves doing the same damn thing again tomorrow? We can!
I appear to me that too few people are willing to stand up for what is right. Too many times we keep on complaining about the injustice in the world, but so few of us are willing to stand up and speak up. With little or no backing those few who do speak up then inevitably find themselves victimized – and that while others watch in silence. Somehow we completely miss the fact that when we do not speak up against injustice we become complicit in it.
Why is it that when people observe something wrong being done or said, they simply cannot find the courage to speak up against it? Is it that we fear being victimised? Or do we fear being disliked?
I sometimes underline how important respect is in my opinion. In my mind respect means to live personal values without hurting those of others. That isn’t easy since discussions about moral and ethics will last and a common definition is not accepted by everyone. Therefore it is up to you to know your personal values. Then it is easier to know where and when to stand up and speak. And yes, there is a high chance that someone doesn’t like what you say. Be brave and respectful in the mentioned way.
Do you really know your values?
Some people may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do. Your challenge is to make sure you are congruent. Walk your talk, be consistent! But how do we stay consistent with being consistent?